I can share with you How to show up as your authentic self in life and business because I do it! Sometimes we don’t connect the dots between ourselves and our businesses but I think it’s catching on, because I am seeing a lot of business people talking about mindset.
I’ve been following Judith Morgan’s blog fest with interest because I love reading blogs for starters (nearly as much as I love writing them!) but more than that, I love hearing people’s stories. These blogs are really people’s business stories and It all ties in with her new book called Your Biz Your Way which is about doing YOUR business YOUR way. And you can find Judith’s blog here. Now I’m all about living life your way so this sits well with me!
Treat this like this is your life
I remember someone saying to me in my Corporate job ‘Treat this like it was your business’. That excited me so much because even in a big corporation there were people that realised if you give people trust and ownership, they will be more inspired and driven. That little comment made a great big difference to my teams’ results. It was me being my authentic self in that role.
I think that ‘Treat this like this is your business’ could translate more broadly into ‘Treat this like this is your life’ and that is something I certainly live by. So many people wait to be ‘done to’ but often you have to make your life happen on purpose. You have more power as your authentic self.
Got no money; make some. Got no friends; Find some. Hate your job? The list goes on. You can change most things in your life. If you want to. Believing this is the first step. The opportunities are abundant in 2018 and we are truly blessed.
This can be a bit of a mindset shift and in my therapy business I help a lot of people with mindset shifts! But get your head in the game and this really is YOUR LIFE and you will feel like you have more options. More power and therefore more happiness.
My life fundamentals
I have some fundamentals that I live my life as my authentic self and things are not much different in my business. Let me share these with you now:
Use energy wisely
I am fully aware of my energy levels. When they are high I harness them and flourish and when they are low, I replenish. I try to never go overdrawn because when I am depleted I cannot give my best self to life, family, friends and clients
I don’t waste my energy on arguments, gossip, comparison or anything that brings negative energy into my ‘field’.
I replenish mostly in nature, walking and being around tress or the sea.
It is said that children laugh around 300 times a day and adults just 17. I look for laughter at every opportunity because it feels good! And bring laughter into my therapy practice because it’s as excellent way to access the unconscious and change how something feels.
Do things that bring you joy
I know myself well. I could write an exact list right now of things that bring me joy. If I ever feel myself creeping away from joy I act quick and get it back. This is a life skill in my view.
Things that bring you joy don’t have to be big or expensive, they just need to bring you joy.
In my therapy business I get joy from working at a deep level with clients. I help them find themselves and find their own joy too.
When I travel I really go for it. Get involved in the culture, see all there is to see, eat the local food, go where the locals go and find out about their cultures and traditions.
I explore in my business too. Mostly training in new therapies because I seek out the best trainers Worldwide. But in a broader sense trying new things with clients to best help them.
I don’t do gimmicks, I don’t endorse people I don’t trust or believe in and I always bring my true self to the table/day/session. These criteria are true to authentic self. I love values because they form our identity and it’s a big piece of the work I do in my signature package (if you are curious about what that is please do ask me). When we align to our true values people get the best of us and it’s funny how the right things come to us.
I see being my authentic self as a hugely important part of being a therapist. My energy will flow in a way that shows people my intentions are to help them the best I can. Trust and rapport are part of a good Hypnosis session.
If I give my true self, it creates an energetic circuit where my client can be open about what they want to change and achieve the best possible results.
If you are a Facebook friend of mine you will know that I share knowledge freely. I believe if we all share knowledge, the world is a better place because we all know more. It’s also a great chance for discussion.
I share knowledge freely as a therapist. I don’t hold things back for ‘the next session’, if I think it benefits the client, I share it or use it there and then. Best outcomes are my mission!
Focus on your strengths
No one asks Tiger Woods to excel at basketball do they? He is really good at golf so he plays that, wins, feels great, earns good money and thrills his fans. Why on earth would he focus on other sports that he isn’t good at? Unless he wanted to learn new things or he enjoyed doing them of course.
We spend too much time thinking about the things we aren’t good at when I believe we should nurture and grow the things we are good at. I also believe we all have a gift/gifts. You’ve just got to find yours.
Know WHO you are, not WHAT you are
I often ask clients ‘Who are you’? And they answer with things like mum, wife, dad, husband, sister, brother, lawyer, teacher, entrepreneur, fitness addict or whatever. Usually a role, job or hobby.
And then we do what I call ‘work of the self’, where we uncover the parts of them they may have overlooked or forgotten. When we uncover their real ‘who’ it feels exciting. Like a new toy to be played with!
Just so you know, I am an explorer 🙂
Everything flows when you are your authentic self
This was a very easy post to write. It flowed from the heart and isn’t it great how easy things are when we are just our true selves. I believe when we live our truth, we do our best work.
I would love to hear what you think of how finding yourself links to having a better business and if you want to hear more from me, please come and follow me on Facebook and Instagram
Until next time.
How good is your sleep recently? There seems to be an epidemic of bad sleep going round! Many of my clients report poor sleep as an issue.
A lack of sleep can affect:
- Your memory
- Your immune system
- Your cardiovascular system
- Your chances of getting dementia in later life
- Your fertility
If you’re someone who doesn’t find getting to sleep at night easy, you’re not alone – insomnia is one of the UK’s biggest googled health worries.
I believe that sleep is one of the cornerstones of health and wellbeing. Even one or two nights of poor sleep can really make you feel low, agitated and sluggish.
So often people focus on what they should be doing and they aim to do it perfectly This can causes stress in itself. So, for this blog I thought I would reverse it and focus on the three main things that you could not do that would make the biggest difference to your sleep.
The three things are simply:
- Stop shallow breathing. Try some diaphragmatic breathing which is amazing for deeply relaxing
- Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed as it stimulates your brain
- Don’t go to bed at random times. Stick to a sleep schedule. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day when possible
Let’s look at them one by one.
1 – Stop shallow breathing
Just take a moment now and notice how you are breathing. Is your breath high in your chest or from low? Are your breathes shallow or deep? Fast or slow? Are you breathing through your nose or your mouth? We mostly take the breath for granted. It is taken care of by our unconscious mind which operates our breathing and all the systems and organs in the body to keep us alive. But you can really relax by breathing in a different way and although there are many techniques and even classes for breathing, diaphragmatic breathing is a good one to master because it really relaxes your and puts you in control. Many of my clients I help with anxiety and stress find it very beneficial and it’s a great one to do in bed to prepare for sleep.
2 – Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed
Now without getting all scientific here about the reward receptors in your brain and how they love a bit of Facebook and Instagram, think about this for a moment. You are looking at a bright screen, your eyes are focused on small items and words and you might be toggling between apps, internet, text and calls. Does that sound like a peaceful bedtime wind down time?! I think not. I actually read yesterday that our brains don’t know the difference between work emails and personal emails, Your brain jumps into ‘work’ mode whenever it sees an email and this creates cortisol (a stress hormone) in your body. Not what you want at bedtime. So stay away from the Digital gadgets at bedtime and choose a more soothing and relaxing wind down activity. You will absolutely notice a difference.
3 – Don’t go to bed at random times
We are creatures of habit really. We do well with routines and we have to sleep every night so might as well try and make it a routine that your body will like. We put children to bed at the same time each night mostly but not ourselves? Your body will love a routine for sleep, just as it loves regular mealtimes. It knows what to expect and can manage its energy accordingly.
Because sleep is so important to your health and maybe an issue for you, you might like to try the things on this list and let me know which is your favourite. Or maybe you have a ‘stop doing’ tip of your own that you can share in the comments of this blog? We would love to hear it, you might help someone sleep better tonight.
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5 types of anxiety you can overcome in two hours with Hypnosis
Today I will explain 5 types of anxiety you can overcome in two hours with Hypnosis. In my last blog post, I showed you what you could achieve in one hour of Hypnosis but today I want to focus on the types of anxiety that I have experience of helping people overcome in most cases in two sessions.
Anxiety can really affect day to day life for sufferers. It can feel unbearable but it is relatively easy to treat. Once you are anxiety free, you can live your life without constraints.
When I refer to ‘Hypnotherapy’ here I am talking about the advanced Hypnotherapy I offer, along with other therapies like NLP and tapping. I weave these together in the best way for you so you get the best outcome.
1 – Work anxiety
Lots of people suffer in silence every day at work. Feeling anxious about the work they do, or the way they are managed or dealing with colleagues and customers. Workload and performance management drive anxiety higher and actually affect your ability to do good work making the situation worse.
And the self employed suffer too, the pressure of starting or managing a business, generating business, overwhelm or fear of failure.
Symptoms I’ve seen include sleepless nights, hair loss and weight gain. There is also a fear of speaking out at work because anxiety can zap your confidence.
2 – Children’s anxiety
The things children get anxious about may not make sense to adults, which is why parents are not always equipped to help in the best way. The issues I see for children are worries about going to school, going to sleep or staying asleep, fear of the dark, thunder and lightning or fussy eating.
These situations affect your whole family. You can forget what ‘normal’ feels like and it’s lovely when anxiety leaves your house.
Getting help for children’s anxiety can be a long and difficult journey, but there is help and effective treatment available that can change your child’s life.
3 – Social anxiety
Social anxiety is said to affect up to 40% of the general public. I wrote a popular blog post about it. Social anxiety is when social encounters or situations cause you distress and worry. Many people don’t realise they even have it, they just think they don’t like going out.
It can cause problems with relationships and make you feel lonely if you want company, but find it hard to socialise. But Hypnosis is very helpful for overcoming your social fears and once you have had a few successes, your confidence will grow, as will your social circle.
I help a lot of clients with social anxiety on Skype, because they find it easier to relax in the comfort of their own homes at the start of treatment.
4 – Public speaking anxiety
The thought of public speaking fills some people with terror and panic. They don’t just feel nervous before the speech but in the months, weeks and days leading up to it. The more they dread it, the more the panic grows.
Some people will need to speak publicly more often than others but we might all have to do it at some point in our lives, maybe:
- In an interview scenario
- In a role at a wedding; father of the bridge, best man
- Speaking impromptu (off the cuff)
- Delivering reports
- Delivering prepared speeches/presentations
- Introducing speakers
- Accepting and presenting awards
- Contributing to meetings at work
- Speaking to inspire others
5 – Driving anxiety
Anxieties around driving can range from making right hand turns, driving over bridges, driving alone at night, driving in rush hour, driving on motorways and driving abroad. These anxieties can really limit your options and stop you going to places and doing things you want to do. It limits your freedom.
When you are no longer afraid, you can begin to live.
You could change years of feeling something. Yes really. The other benefits of overcoming your anxiety are that it opens up your world. You will feel calmer, more confident and able to live a happier life.
Hypnotherapy helps you get to the root of the issue safely and overcome your fears.
The entire premise of my work is to make a difference to how you feel from the first session. One of the big things with anxiety is that people think it controls them but with a few simple techniques you can take back control.
Book for free consultation today. Text me now 07530 890089 or email me and then we’ll chat
I thought you might want to know what you can achieve in one hour of Hypnosis, so here we go. When I refer to ‘Hypnotherapy’ here I am talking about the advanced Hypnotherapy I offer, along with other therapies like NLP and tapping. I weave these together in the best way for you so you get the best outcome.
You could change years of feeling something
Yes really. My therapies work with the feeling of something, rather than talking about the something. This is because your mind/body stores experiences and maps them all to a feeling. By working with the feeling, you remove the root cause. Remove a life long trauma.
It’s officially a two hour session but the work is done in one session. I’ve got stop smoking down to a fine art. We tap out the craving and desire, use a technique to remove your desire to stop and then top it off with Hypnosis to seal in your resilience and all the benefits of being a non-smoker.
You could remove anxiety
I will explain how although you feel like anxiety has control on you, with a few simple techniques and mindset shifts you can be in control. Again we are working with the feeling here. Some people need two sessions but this is mostly because of their beliefs (which we all have to different degrees). Many people choose to have two sessions because they like to put more ‘good stuff’ in where anxiety was (like confidence for example).
You could remove a phobia like fear of flying
This one is so simple. We tap out the fear and then use Hypnotherapy to set a new scene in your mind of you preparing for your flight, arriving at the airport, getting on the plane and taking off.
You could stop eating sugar
Yes I have had clients give up sugar in one session!
You could have a good night’s sleep
This seems to be a growing problem. It seems to be the people that say they are ‘over thinkers’ or ‘worriers’ that have the most trouble. You can offload a lot of worry in one hour of Hypnosis and many people say they have a really good sleep for the first time in ages after just one session.
You could remove pain
A lot of pain is due to an emotional distress or trauma being stored in the body. Hypnosis is a totally safe way to remove pain that no longer serves a purpose. Particularly effective for fibromyalgia, arthritic pain, chronic pain, old injuries, sciatica, chronic fatigue and back pain.
You could pass your driving test
Many driving test failures are caused by nerves. Hypnosis is very effective for calming nerves and boosting confidence.
You could pass the interview and get the job
Learn how to use your posture to be more confident, how to connect to your inner confidence and retain your train of thought under pressure. You’re hired!
Just one hour can change your life
Yes you can make huge differences in an hour and many people do but we are all different. Some people will want the change so much it’s almost instant. Others need to work through other beliefs of secondary gain before they change. Some people need to take their time and that is fine too. The point I am making in this post is you don’t always need weeks or months of therapy.
The entire premise of my work is to make a difference to how you feel from the first session. But self development is a big area and people very often choose to come back for more sessions so we will look at what else you can achieve in a couple of other blog posts this week.
Please note, weight loss and depression are not quick fixes. I offer a 4 week programme if you want to deal with these.
Book for free consultation today. Text me now 07530 890089 or email me and then we’ll chat 🙂
So you want to know the real secret to getting motivated? Like so many secrets to success, its very simple! The real secret to getting motivated is to clear the blocks. Yes that’s it. But let me explain why.
Clear your blocks to get motivated
Smart people know that Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool to achieving the things you want to in life and I often see clients who are looking for help with what they describe as a ‘lack of motivation’. Behind this lack of feeling motivated I have noticed the key themes of:
- Lack of confidence
- Disconnection with themselves
Now imagine trying to cook a meal in an untidy and dirty kitchen. You wouldn’t really want to would you? It would be difficult and not enjoyable. You would get in a flap moving things around, finding a place to put things and well it just wouldn’t feel good. That’s the equivalent of looking for a motivated feeling when the issues I listed above haven’t been dealt with.
All the issues on the list above cause procrastination and procrastination and feeling motivated are not a marriage made in heaven. Let’s look at them one by one.
A traditional coaching question for getting people motivated is ‘what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail’. Usually when I ask people this their eyes light up and they get excited about something. And then soon after asking the question they will try and dip into all the reasons they can’t or feel they shouldn’t do that. The reasons why will vary but the underlying theme is often a fear of failure. Failure is how we learn.
What if a baby gave up when it didn’t walk the first time it tried? And Edison, the inventor of the light bulb famously said “I have not failed 10,000 times, I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.”
Lack of confidence
Honestly, lack of confidence can stop the most qualified people from having success. It can stop people having fulfilling relationships and being able to show up in the world as themselves. If you are someone that sees other people doing things and you think you could have done it better it is probably confidence that has stopped you.
Lack of confidence is one of the easiest things to fix with Hypnosis and Coaching and like taking your driving test, you only need to do it once and you are set for a very long time. Once you enjoy the freedom and opportunities that come with increased confidence, you will not want to change it.
Perfectionism could be renamed as ‘not feeling good enough’. But it can stifle the best creators and keep people stuck. Life really is too short. Of course it’s important to do a good job and do things properly, but for some people they spend so long perfecting that nothing really ever gets finished. And during the time they have spent perfecting, things have changed so much that their thing isn’t really relevant or up to date anymore so off they go again changing, improving, perfecting, missing out…..
Nothing kills motivation faster than overwhelm. And wow we are surrounded. Battling inboxes, phones, standards, jobs, homes, family and friends. But if you have something you want to achieve you have to channel focus because your mind just can’t do a gazillion things at once. It’s not the way it’s designed and ‘good’ multi tasking doesn’t exist.
I use an amazing process in Hypnosis where we create a map of your objective and your unconscious mind will sort out any blocks to achieving it and give you an inner focus like never before.
Disconnection with yourself
Have you ever had instructions from someone that didn’t make sense? Isn’t it frustrating! Clarity makes things so much easier. But if you are not clear on who you are and what you want how will you be able to muster the motivation that you need? I love helping people get clear on their values (what is most important to them) and identity (I will ask you now to answer this question out loud…Who are you?).
When you get clear on yourself you will feel like anything is possible. Like searching for the right house and when you get it you just can’t stop thinking about it because it just feels so right.
Clear the blocks and the motivation will come, by the bucket load!
Don’t hang around, be an action taker and feel how good that feels! Here are things you can do right now.
Sending you fizzy energetic vibes,