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30 days to a happier you – Day 9 – you tell fibs

30 days to a happier you – Day 9 – you tell fibs

Is this your Mind COP?

Yesterday you met your own mind COP by imagining what you mind COP looked like, sounds like, wears…

Maybe one of these?









Today we are going to look at how your mind COP will catch those criminal negative thoughts and keep your mind safe. For the past week you have been keeping a note of your negative mind chatter in your notebook. Now is the time to have a good look at what you have written and start working on making some changes to how that chatter might make you feel bad.

Let’s see mind COP in action.

Catch them: You’ve been catching mind chatter for nearly a week. You should have a pretty good idea of what yours is saying to you and who your criminals are.

Own them: These are your thoughts. You created them. You can acknowledge them. Consider them and choose whether to discard them or whether to arrest them.

Protect yourself: You protect yourself by arresting the negative thoughts, examining the evidence and deciding whether to charge them or give them a warning.

Here’s an example based on the losing your job example negative thoughts we looked at yesterday. Read each thought from left to right to see how Mind COP works.

Catch them Own them Protect yourself
‘I should have worked harder’ I did work hard though Maybe they didn’t really appreciate me?
‘Why didn’t I take that course to learn more’ I did a lot of development in that role This is a chance to learn something new
‘I’m no good’ Is everything I’ve ever done no good? I’ve achieved a lot
‘I’m unpopular’ With those that love me? I matter to the people that matter to me
‘Why me’ I was one of 10 I will find a better fit
‘I’m not clever’ I was the problem solver I need a new challenge
‘I’ll never get another job’ Have you tried? I wonder what job I will love?


You can see how Mind COP is examining each thought and looking at it in a different way. One thought does not make a truth. One thought may seek evidence from the subconscious to support it, but Mind COP doesn’t fall for this.

Mind COP is objective and realizes that thoughts tell stories but their alibi is weak when questioned. Mind COP wants to hear from the witnesses and sort out those criminal negative thoughts.

You tell fibs

You see when you tell think a negative thought it’s probably not true and your Mind Cop might make this face!


So the next time those pesky criminal negative thoughts are doing a ‘wrong un’ in your mind, just see them scarper when Mind COP comes along and bangs them to rights.

Your time is precious, don’t waste it

How much of your precious life are you going to spend thinking negatively?

Think about it, how much time are you going to think about negative situations, obsess about the things that went wrong it your life, worry about things that happen or might never happen? Two hours a day? Which is 14 hours a week. Which is 60 hours a month. Which is 730 hours a year. Which is 30 DAYS A YEAR of feeling bad. What could you do in 30 days? A lot! In our example of losing the job, that is 30 days of enjoying the freedom of not working and exploring options for a new career whilst feeling happier.

Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs and change. By learning to manage your thoughts you will be more resilient in the tough times and happier on the whole. You are not your past, your current situation or what people say about you. You are so much more than that and you can shine.

  • Write your own table of negative mind chatter in the same format as above and set your mind COP to work
  • Read your gratitude list often
  • See you tomorrow

Happy hug 🙂


Why you need Hypnosis in your life

Why you need Hypnosis in your life

You may never have considered why you need Hypnosis in your life so please let me explain. For many people Hypnosis is a last resort, but I really wish it would catch on like Mindfulness has because so many people could be less troubled and have better lives.

What is Hypnotherapy?

Now,  I’m a Hypnotherapist who thinks Hypnotherapy is the best thing since sliced bread  so this could be a very long blog post! One that would probably put you into a trance! So in the interests of your time and my fingers, I am going to break it down over the next few days and today just tell you about the nuts and bolts.

Hypnotherapy is used to make changes to things that are negatively affecting people’s lives (see lists below) but also to put positivity in. Because your mind is very alert during Hypnosis positive statements are very well received. Imagine your affirmations but 100 times stronger.

Once you have learned Self-Hypnosis (your Hypnotherapist will teach you this), you can use Hypnosis to self-heal, relax, sleep or ‘sort your head out’. One of my favourite things about Hypnosis is being able to ‘declutter’ my mind and feel fabulous afterwards. Even better than a power nap!

Short history of Hypnosis goes something like this:

  • It’s been around over 2,500 years. It was used in ancient China, Egypt and Greece where the remnants of the sleep healing temple of Asklepios still exist.
  • Franz Mesmer (1770) experimented with what he called ‘animal magnetism’ which involved using Hypnosis and magnets. He was convinced that these techniques could banish illness and suffering, and they often did. He had a lot of success with it in its hashed form.
  • French and British physicians in the mid-1800s studied Mesmer’s work and discounted the use of magnets.
  • James Braid, a Scottish surgeon, around 1843 coined the term “hypnosis” from Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep.
  • In 1933, Clark Hull. In his book, Hypnosis and Suggestibility, proved pain reduction through hypnotic trance. He also showed that effects of hypnosis were symptomatic of suggestion and motivation. As a result of his work,. many soldiers benefited from Hypnosis pain relief in World War 2
  • Dr. Milton Erickson (1957) is said to have been a genius with his work using Hypnosis and used metaphoric stories which he personalised for each client.
  • Dave Elman wrote Findings in Hypnosis (1964) and created a hypnotic induction used by many Hypnotists today.

There are now many fabulous modern day Hypnotists many with chosen specialisms. There have been some amazing results proven with neuro-imaging devices which can see inside the brain to view in real time when someone is pretending, imagining, or using hypnotic suggestion.

Are you in a trance yet?

Probably! We dip in and out of trance many times a day. But what is trance? A trance is where you access the subconcious part of your mind. You actually have two minds. Did you know! One conscious (said to be 10%), the other subconscious (said to be 90%). More on those minds another time (remember that reader’s subconscious mind won’t you *wink*)

So what is Hypnosis?

Rubik cube

Hypnosis works by keeping the conscious mind occupied, which allows access to the subconscious mind where all the ‘stuff’ is stored. Your Hypnotherapist will then guide you to the issues that you’ve asked them for help with.

I think the best description for the feeling is that bit before you go to sleep when you are having thoughts (and they are sometimes amazing) but you wouldn’t necessarily be able to put them into words very easily. But it all makes perfect sense at the time! Many a puzzle or problem is resolved in Hypnosis.

Issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis (most common):

  • Anxiety (social anxiety, health anxiety, panic attacks)
  • Depression
  • Phobia
  • Sleep
  • PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder)
  • Self Esteem
  • Stop smoking
  • Weight loss
  • Confidence
  • Motivation
  • Fears
  • Pain management
  • Healing emotional wounds
  • Unwanted habits
  • Stress relief
  • Childbirth
  • Sports performance
  • Exam revision and nerves


Other issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis:

  • Dyslexia
  • Bulimia nervosa
  • Anorexia nervosa
  • Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Asthma
  • Hyperventilation
  • Migraines
  • Warts
  • Eczema
  • Stuttering
  • IBS
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Chronic fatigue syndrome
  • Rheumatoid athritus
  • Oncology
  • Fertility
  • OCD
  • Tinnitus


Childrens’ issues

  • Bedwetting
  • Anxiety
  • Eating
  • Sleeping
  • Confidence
  • Thumb sucking


Does it work on everyone?

Young children are in Hypnosis already so make excellent clients. They just love metaphoric stories which appeal to their wonderful imaginations.

Adults suggestibility varies. I talk about suggestibility on another post called ‘everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong!’.  It is nothing to do with being gullible or belief.

The more you go into Hypnosis, the better you get at it. Imagine being able to slip into a state where you felt more relaxed and able to self-heal, whenever you like. They should do belts in it like Karate (I would be a black belt lol).

What can’t Hypnosis do?

Hypnosis is such a versatile tool. It harness the greatest power of your mind, the subconscious to address issues and creative possibilities. Ask any Hypnotherapist or anyone who has resolved an issue with Hypnotherapy and they will tell you. It is life changing.

You don’t need to live with your ghosts of the past. Hypnosis doesn’t change the past but certainly allows you to accept it and move on.

Hypnosis gives you personal power. The realisation that the story in your head is not the story of your future. The things that limit you simply need tweaking in your mind and off you go. The world is your oyster.

And oh! It works on physical pain too. The effect of positive thinking on the body is no secret. Ask anyone who has defied their medical diagnosis of expected lifespan for a disease.

Oh sorry I was meant to be telling you what Hypnosis can’t do wasn’t I?! It can’t make you win the lottery, it can’t make someone love you and it can’t give you perfectly behaved children. There you go lol. Seriously though, it doesn’t work on someone who isn’t committed to the change they say they seek.

The important thing for a successful Hypnosis treatment is that any concerns or fear are removed for the client and the client is motivated to change.

You want to try it now don’t you?

If this post has made you want to try Hypnosis NOW, then please get in touch and I will squeeze you in as soon as I can 🙂



Healthy eating – Day 19 – Healthnutgirl Rachel Kieffer shows us easy healthy eating

Today’s blogger is Holistic Health Coach,  Rachel Kieffer who is going to show us how to make healthy easting easy. Rachel is from New York who owns Healthnutgirl. She helps women create a healthy relationship with food and their body and fall in love with a healthy life.

Make Eating Healthy EASY!

Hello loves,
Who wants to spend hours in the kitchen every day slaving over elaborate meals? Not me!
I am a busy mom of an energetic 7 year old boy with a full work and life schedule. As a holistic nutritionist I know and teach the importance of preparing daily healthy meals. The best thing you can do to improve your health is make your own meals from fresh and whole ingredients.
You will be able to know exactly what goes into your meals, make choices and changes that can support your health and the life you want to create and teach your family healthy eating habits. Preparing your daily meals can become an act of self-care and self-love.
There are many strategies that can help you make your meal preparations and healthy eating easier and quicker. Here are a few that I use and teach my clients:

Keep unhealthy food out!

Or at least out of sight. If the cookies and crisps are on the kitchen counter you will eat them! I keep a bowl of fruit on my kitchen table and even my son will reach for a fruit when he wants a snack.

Friend you fridge!

What do you see when you first open your fridge? To make your fridge work for you and not against you rearrange it to put the healthiest foods front and center!
Keep bowls with washed fruit on the top shelf. Keep sliced vegetables for snacking and dips in clear containers. Keep washed and chopped greens for salads, cooking and smoothies in clear bags in plain sight.

Wonder water.

Drinking enough water will energize you, help your body cleanse and get rid of toxins and will improve a staggering list of health conditions. To help you remember to hydrate keep a large pitcher full of water somewhere visible.
Infuse it with one or more of the following: sliced cucumbers, fresh mint leaves, sliced strawberries, sliced lemon, sliced lime, sliced orange, fresh rosemary, fresh sage. Experiment with flavor combination and create your own signature “spa water”.

Plan and prep!

Plan your weekly meals and once or twice a week wash, slice and chop veggies for your weekly recipes, it will greatly shorten the meal preparation time. Enlist family members to help you or invite your friends to a “vegetable cutting party”, where everyone brings a basket of veggies, chops them together while listening music and goes home with veggies ready for salads, cooking and freezing!
No time for prepping? Buy your veggies already chopped and sliced, fresh or frozen.

Protein power!

Cook a large roast chicken and divide it up for a few meals. Make a double portion of grilled fish and freeze half for an easy “heat and serve” meal. Cook a large batch of chickpeas and freeze in portioned freezer bags for easy soups and curries. Keep canned beans (I prefer organic and salt free) for easy quick meals.

Gorgeous grains!

Eating more whole grains will give you important nutrients, lots of fiber, a sense of fullness and it will help stabilize your blood sugar levels and reduce cravings for sweets. Some grains cook faster than others and I like to keep them on hand: quinoa takes 15 minutes, whole grain pasta (there are many gluten free varieties) takes 8-10 minutes and whole wheat couscous is ready in 5 minutes.

Smart selections.

Sometimes you just want to enjoy a meal in a restaurant or get take-away when you’re too tired or busy to prepare your own meals. Make a list of your favourite restaurants with their healthier meal options and your favourite take-away places with their more wholesome selections and carry it in your bag.
When you’re hungry and tired it can be hard to make a healthy choice, so use this list as a healthy alternative menu. When you feel like indulging, enjoy it without guilt, you have my permission.
Remember to make healthy eating enjoyable and fun, include your favuorites and don’t try to be perfect, just surround yourself with healthy choices and reach for them more often and you will make great progress!
You can connect with Rachel Kieffer on facebook or her website

A note from Honey

Thank you Rachel for sharing those tips on making healthy eating easy. We could all do with a bit of that!

What’s in this blog for you:

  • 30 days of blogs from a variety of people including experts to give you ideas and top tips for healthy eating
  • You can get this blog sent to you every day if you sign up here for my newsletter and you will also get a free relaxing recording

See you tomorrow

Healthy hug 🙂


30 days to a happier you – day 11 – what is your Unique Selling Point?

30 days to a happier you – day 11 – what is your Unique Selling Point?

nothingcomparestoyouWhat is your Unique Selling Point?

Do you worry that you are not good enough? Maybe you want to be thinner, richer, funnier, faster, slower, taller, shorter or more intelligent.

Maybe you spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others? This will probably not make you feel good as there will always be someone with something that you don’t have. But what they won’t have is your smile, friends, loved ones, wit, originality, creativity, look in your eye, smile, hair, smell etc.  It really doesn’t matter what anyone else is, no one is you and that is your power.



What USPs do you like?

In sales and marketing this is known as the ‘USP’ (unique selling point). Consumers are always on the look out for that USP. They wants things that are special and unique.

Think about it. In life there are some things that you know, trust and love more than others:

  • A particular pen that writes nicely. You might have lost the lid or the ink might be really expensive but you love that pen
  • A chocolate that you just love to devour. Maybe you buy it and have a particular time in mind when you will indulge with it
  • A lover that makes you melt like no other
  • A flower that you love the smell of
  • A scruffy pair of tracks suit bottoms that are just sooooo comfortable
  • A dinner that a particular person made or makes for you. It’s just the way they make it (nans usually feature quite highly here)
  • A teddy bear that you love
  • A pillow that is so snuggly
  • Your favourite bowl (the chipped one)
  • That server in your coffee shop with the crazy hair that makes your coffee exactly how you like it
  • Your friends laugh that is a bit too loud in public places but hey, it makes you laugh too
  • That pet that makes a mess of your house but you wouldn’t be without
  • Your favourite sausages
  • Your favourite band that sang a song that has since been covered but its just not the same
  • The writer that write books you can’t put down and stay up late reading
  • Your favourite actor. It doesn’t matter what he’s in, you’ll still watch it
  • And of course your special loved ones and friends for all their unique qualities that make them their amazing selves

The point is these things are special and important to you. They have something else that other things don’t and that is their power.

So have a think about your USPs. The things that make you special. Do you know what they are? Do you know what other people think they are? I feel an exercise coming on….







Here’s the plan.

  • Make a list of 10 things that make you special
  • Make a list of 5 things that are unique about you
  • Write down one physical thing you like about yourself
  • Ask people close to you to do this for you to.

Rejoice in your special uniqueness and remember the people that care about you like you just the way you are….