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30 days to a happier you – Day 28 – 7 things that will affect your energy

30 days to a happier you – Day 28 – 7 things that will affect your energy

7 things that will affect your energy

human energy

I hope you enjoyed the past five days of guest bloggers talking about how exercise (Anthony Punshon), food (Katie Hedges), spiritual (Susan Ellis-Saller), art (Justine Van De Weg) and uncertainty (Dawn Breslin) affect your happiness.

But you will find it hard to be happy without energy. We are energy beings. There are some key things that will drain your energy like poor diet, lack of exercise or emotional turmoil but what about the less obvious ones?

1 – Thinking about the past

If you live to 80 years old you will have 29,200 days of life. How many will you spend thinking about things that happened in the past? Of course it’s not always possible to just stop thinking about the past by yourself so you may need to get professional help. I’m a Hypnotherapist and NLP Master practitioner which means I change the way the past feels for people by making changes in the subconscious. This is a big topic and I have a blog on it here

2 – Thinking of the things you can’t do rather than the things you can

You might wish you were good at something or had certain opportunities but when you look at the things you can’t do you drain your energy from the things you can. So if you don’t have the money to go on a certain trip, create a different trip that you can afford. If you can’t run a 5k, walk one or build up to one. Focusing on the can, rather than the can’t feeds your energy (and confidence).

3 – Disliking your body

How often do you look down at your belly and think you are fat or it is gross? That belly is working hard for you on the inside! The digestive system is amazing! Often referred to as the second brain. Try nourishing it with probiotics and see how great you feel. Some things are functional and don’t look pretty! So your legs are wobbly but aren’t they the same legs that carry you up the stairs to be the tooth fairy and down the stairs to be Santa?

4 – Not discovering new things

dog swimming

Can you imagine a dog that was kept in a dog cage and never went to the park, sniffed trees, met other dogs, ran for a stick, jumped in a lake, followed a scent, ran free in the grass, made doggy friends, chased a cat, ate something he shouldn’t, dug a hole, got made a fuss of by people other than his owner….. life is an exciting adventure. There are 7 billion people on the planet, 195 countries and over a billion websites! Discovering new things enriches and excites us.

5 – Overspending your energy

Energy is not unlimited. You only have a certain amount. Sportspeople understand this and footballers are advised not to have sex before a big match! So do you know how you are spending your energy? Is work draining you? Or a relationship? Or are you spending your energy on worry? Awareness is the first step and then looking at balancing the ‘energy books’ can make huge differences to your life.

6 – Not nourishing your soul

Do you know what makes you happy? Or are the things that used to make you happy not working anymore? We are fluid creatures and whilst you may have a passion that lasts a lifetime, you might evolve and need new hobbies and interests to match your current state. By trying new things and having an open mind you might just find that belly dancing makes your soul feel alive!

7 – Your mindset

Some people find the phrase ‘positive thinking’ cheesy. And it can be; not everything is awesome! I really liked this blog that Michael Neill wrote recently where he talked about choosing our attitude to tasks we don’t enjoy. The purpose of the post was boosting productivity but what I took from it was by choosing our attitude, everything can be better.

If you are in a job you don’t enjoy, people may advise you to leave. But this just isn’t practical in all cases. By changing your mindset, it could feel like a new job!

So you see you may be leaking precious energy without even realising it. But if you aren’t enjoying your life as much as you want to or find it hard to get motivated, start by plugging energy leaks.

Here’s the plan:

  • Think about your energy levels. Can you identify any leaks?
  • Use a page in your notebook/journal and split it into seven squares. Label each one with a day of the week and make a note each day of your energy level out of ten and why you think that might be.


See you tomorrow

Happy hug 🙂



30 days to a happier you – Day 13 – ‘some days you can’t be inspired to take a shit’

Richard Branson

What gets you inspired?

Many people will answer this question with Richard Branson who has achieved a lot.

But when you think of the person that inspires you, why is it that they inspire you? It’s probably because they have a quality that you admire. It’s interesting to think about this as it gives you a good clue as to your own personal values.

So if yours is Richard Branson, why exactly is that? Is it because he built a business from nothing? Because he seems to respect his employees? Or is it his creativity? Or maybe his family values?

So many to choose from!

There are so many inspiring people to choose from but for today, I have chosen some of my favourites and will explain why.

‘Some days you can’t be inspired to take a shit’ – Michael Neill

I stole this line from one of my most inspiring people Michael Neill. He is an author and transformational coach. He works on an inside out premise, which focuses on the space inside of you where thoughts come and go. He inspires me because he looks at things differently and has suffered from mental health issues himself and aims help people with theirs.


This week, I saw on Facebook this video of Serena Williams reciting Maya Angelo’s poem, ‘Still I rise’. She inspires me because she has played tennis since she was 3, shows devotion to her sport and has overcome injuries. She is the world’s number 1 women’s singles tennis player.. She is involved in loads of charity work. She lives her dream and plays to her strengths.


Tony Robbins is an American motivational speaker and author. He has events worldwide that thousands attend. He had a tough childhood and is dedicated to helping people live positive lives. He is a philanthropist and gives a lot back to society.


Brene Brown is an American author and speaker and she is good at understanding the deeper aspects of people and explaining these in simple terms. 25 millions people have watched her Ted Talk on vulnerability.


When the going gets tough, some people just keep going and Claire Lomas is one of those people. She took 17 days to complete a marathon because she is paralysed below the waist. And it gets better because she didn’t qualify for an official medal so 18 other competitors gave her theirs.

Historic figures who inspire me:

I admire the courage of Nelson Mandela (1918 – 2013 ) – who campaigned for justice and freedom in his native South Africa. Spent 20 years in jail for his opposition to apartheid. After his release, he became the first President of democratic South Africa and helped heal the wounds of apartheid by his magnanimous attitude to his former political enemies.

Mother Teresa’s compassion is inspiring (1910 – 1997) – A modern day saint who sought to identify with and offer compassion to the unloved and destitute. Lived a life of voluntary poverty and service to the poor.

Some people share knowledge freely and it’s lucky that Leonardo da Vinci (1452 – 1519) – one of the greatest minds in human history, did this. In many areas he was a couple of centuries ahead of scientific discovery. He helped make great advances in anatomy, astronomy, physics, science and others. Amidst all this, he found time to paint the most iconic picture in history – The Mona Lisa.

Most people are inspirational in some way

I find something inspiring about most people in life. Their parenting, their achievements, their kindness, their generosity, their fighting spirit, their strength. The list goes on. There are everyday people doing amazing things which are inspirational. They are right there around us, every day. You are probably one yourself!

Here’s the plan:

  • Think of someone that inspires you. Anyone.
  • Write down why you think they inspire you.
  • Be inspired 🙂
  • Let me know who inspires you and why in the comments on the blog or on Facebook

Happy hug 🙂