If you have ever wondered what the secrets of slim people are, your questions might be answered tonight in a show called ‘The truth about slim people’
The truth about slim people
We will get to see how two people; Anne-Marie and Yemi, manage to stay slim despite it seems eating whatever they like, whenever they like.
It is a true case of nothing being as it seems as I read the article about it.
Anne-Marie is a 42 year old mother of two who was trained as a dancer but now runs a dance classes for kids. She is 9 stone a size 8. Every aspect of her life was filmed for 5 days.
Yemi is a 37 year old father of 2, has a 32 inch waist and weighs 12 stone. His childhood nickname was ‘Dustbin’ because of his large appetite. He did a lot of sport in his younger days.
Neither of them eat ‘healthy’ food and they both at what they like in the quantity they desire. Or so it seems.
As part of the programme they both have medical test and it is found that neither of them have ‘magic metabolisms’.
The findings tell this story (see if you can spot the key ones that I, as a Hypnotherapist, will talk about today):
- They don’t snack in the day
- They fully satisfy themselves at mealtimes by eating what they fancy.
- They both eat enough to feel full until the next meal.
- Neither of them are ‘emotional eaters’.
- They don’t drink much alcohol.
- If they eat a lot one day, they eat less the next day
- They unconsciously seem to balance their calorie intake
- Anne-Marie is found to be a ‘fidgeter’. Never sitting still and using up lots of energy just ‘being her’.
- Yemi walks at a very fast pace
- Both sleep well
- Both have good gut bacteria
- Neither of them are ‘hung-up’ on food
- They are both ‘self-regulated’
- The conclusion from the show was that the secret to staying slim is mindset.
From the list above I am going to talk about the emotional eating aspect today.
So what is an emotional eater?
It’s safe to say that an emotional eater will not see food as fuel only. If you are an emotional eater food is more of a friend that you call on when you need to feel better. When you feel negative emotions you will use food as a way to take your mind off them. Because your mind is distracted by the emotion, it means you don’t recognize when you are hungry or full so eat you fulfill an emotional need rather than a physical one.
Emotional eaters use food as a crutch rather than a source of pleasure to be enjoyed for what it is.
So what emotions might trigger an emotional eater to eat? Well any negative emotion really such as:
- Dislike of yourself
- Feeling unloved
Eating numbs the emotion and therefore feels comforting. But the bad news is after you’ve eaten you will probably feel more negative emotions about yourself like hating yourself for having no control, guilt, not liking your body, feeling fat or ugly or shame (especially if you eat in secret).
If you are unhappy being overweight, you may feel you have to wear make up to ‘hide’ yourself or even feel ugly without it and you may feel the need to behave in a way that distracts from your body which only adds to your feelings of internal discomfort. You may not be happy in your own skin.
Before you beat yourself up for what you crave and eat….
Why is it that certain foods seem to feature highly for emotional eaters? Foods like cake, biscuits, ice cream? Well your cravings can be justified for good reason. The blend of carbohydrates, sugar and fat can be delicious. A multi-sensory and temporarily satisfying experience. The feel in your mouth, the smell, the flavours and the taste exciting your senses and providing a distraction from anything else at that moment. And they are so easily available.
These type of food also provide instant gratification.
But did you know that your brain chemistry actually changes when you eat. “Carbohydrates set off a series of chemical reactions that ultimately lead to a boost in brain serotonin,” says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., the former director of the Research Program in Women’s Health at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Clinical Research Center. The higher the levels of serotonin, the more content you feel (at least temporarily).
There have also been studies around fatty foods making people feel less sad because fatty acids can induce a signal from your gut to your brain, which may influence emotions.
So how can an emotional eater change?
Keep an emotional food diary
Keeping a food diary to track what you’ve been eating alongside what how you are feeling at the time can help you identify what triggers emotional eating.
I’ve made a food and emotion diary download for you which you can download here
Knowing what these triggers are can help you break the emotional eating habits and deal with triggers instead of turning to food.
How can you deal with emotional triggers?
So if you’ve done your food diary and spotted some emotional triggers for you, you need to know how to do something other than eat when they occur.
Although there are many ways that you could find something other than eat to do, it is a good idea if you try and find something that satisfies your reward centre. What I mean by that is the place in your mind that needs to feel good and satisfied (known as a reward centre). If you don’t do this, you are merely distracting yourself from the thought of wanting to eat (this strategy can work well for some people too).
If you think about how your emotions are soothed and the deep connection they have with food for a minute.
Ice cream at the seaside – this often starts in childhood. There you are having a great time with your family and your treat is an ice cream. Not only is the ice cream delicious in itself, but it anchors those happy feelings of your time at the beach probably with people you like to be with.
Popcorn at the cinema – going to the cinema is a sensory experience. you are going to watch a story that you can be absorbed in undisturbed for a couple of hours. You will see things that might be amazing and open your unconscious mind and emotions right up (think Disney or Hollywood). You then eat some sweet popcorn which anchors the experience.
Candy floss at the funfair – you are surrounded by fun and people laughing. you may have been spun round and round or been taken on a ride up in the air. Everyone there is happy and laughing. There are bright lights and your adrenaline, serotonin and oxytocin which make you excited and happy will all be in full force. The candy floss anchors the experience.
These experiences are bonding tastes and food with experiences. Your brain will want the same feeling if you don’t give it the food it thinks it wants.
So you need to get creative to think of things you can do which may make you feel good. Maybe excited or like you’ve accomplished something. Get thinking about what they might be now. What are you craving and how can you get it another way than eating?
If you need help
If you need help with your emotional eating or weight loss then I can help you by seeing you as a one to one client for 4 sessions. It is 4 sessions because we work on any emotional healing that needs to take place to allow you to move on. We work with the inner voice that damages your self-esteem and I help you to love your body (yes in its current form) so you want to care for it and nourish it. We also work on making better food choices, sugar cravings and confidence. The whole works.
If you want to be part of a group and spend 47 days working on your relationship with food, your relationship with yourself, sharing recipes, participating in challenges and listening to Hypnosis audios to help you, then you can join my next Project 47 group which starts on January 9th 2018. Please email me and I will put you on the waiting list.
Sending you some positive emotions today
Many people don’t realise how fermented food helps your health but there is an ‘underground’ society of people that do and this movement is getting stronger 🙂
I’ve been into probiotics for some time and have always wanted to learn how to make my own fermented foods like kefir, sourdough bread, sauerkraut and the fermeted drink, Kombucha. And recently I went on a workshop in Shoreham, West Sussex to do that so I will share that with you in this post.
Did you know your gut is referred to as your second brain? Your gut is very important to your overall wellbeing. There is ever growing evidence to the effect it has on your mental and physical health. Improving your gut health will give you better immunity, more efficient digestion and less stress. Because your digestion is better you will have more energy – yay.
In your gut there are trillions of bacteria that help you process food, produce nutrients, and fight disease. You might remember seeing adverts on TV about ‘healthy bacteria’ and this is what I am talking about here.
A great book on the subject is Gut by
There are three things you need to do to look after your gut bacteria
- Make sure you have enough good bacteria
- Make sure that they survive
- Don’t deplete them
1 – You put healthy bacteria in by eating probiotic foods that contain them.
2 – You preserve them by eating probiotic foods that support them.
3 – You protect them by being aware of what depletes them and that is stress, antibiotics, steroid medications and stomach bugs.
So what can you do to improve your gut health?
You can take a probiotic supplement or eat probiotic food like sauerkraut, kimchi, miso, coconut kefir, yoghurt, kefir and apple cider vinegar.
You can eat prebiotic whole foods. Certain foods feed and support the growth of good bacteria. Raw onions, garlic, dandelion greens, artichokes and bananas are some of the best.
Keep hydrated. Your gut needs water to keep bacteria and waste moving through your digestive system, which will help prevent constipation and bloating. Dehydration affects your bacteria balance.
Eat less sugar as it feeds bad bacteria and you are more interested in the good ones.
Reduce your stress levels. Stress makes your brain go into fight or flight mode, causing your digestion and blood flow in the gut to slow down and digestion is not as effective.
Making fermented foods which help your gut bacteria
Making fermented foods is an interesting experience and when the scoby comes out that’s exciting! I learnt at a workshop with my local Homoeopath, Therese Eriksen
During the workshop we made:
Sauerkraut – a kind of pickled vegetable. We made red cabbage and another of carrot and ginger. You can have a little bit on the side of practically any meal to add some lovely flavour. It keeps well too.
Sourdough bread – a bread make without yeast which some people find easier to digest. Once you’ve mastered the basic recipe the world is your bread basket as you can add herbs, cheese, sundried tomatoes. YUM
Milk Kefir – A ‘live’ drink that you make from grains (main blog picture). You can drink it straight if you are hard core or make smoothies with it or flavour it.
Kambucha – Is the tea teetotallers champagne! It’s made with a scoby which I have put a picture of below. It’s a weird disc thing that you put in tea to make the Kambucha but then it takes on a life of its own and grows!
In Copenhagen Kambucha is readily available, they know it helps them get Hyggey 🙂
Let the fermenting commence!
So now my kitchen is full of kilner jars doing their different things. I’m so excited about having fermented foods in my life that I’ve made myself.
One of my guiding principles of life is to cradle my health (mental and physical) like a newborn baby. Not in an obssessive way, but it’s very high up my values list. I want enough energy to fulfil my dreams and enjoy my family. But I am conscious this takes effort and thought. Effort in the sense of eating right and making time for exercise. And thought recognising when thinks are out of balance and addressing it.
In life, the effort has to be worth the reward. I am going to try to maintain my fermented food supplies as the reward is better health and more energy. That has to be worth it!
If you want to learn how to make fermented foods with the Therese you can book through her website or Facebook page.
When you go to a gym you always warm up don’t you. It makes sense, gets your body moving gently, warms up your muscles and opens your lungs. Ready for action! So I thought it made sense to warm up for my 30 day blogging challenge which starts today – yay!
Warm up your mindset
For the blogging challenge, just like any other challenge, you have to get your head in the game. These blogs aren’t going to write themselves! As I’ve done it twice before I have learnt lessons in the past that I am hoping not to repeat. That’s the beauty of making mistakes in life isn’t it; we learn from them and they make us better. Unless of course we refuse to accept the lessons we are offered and don’t change, then we stay stuck and repeat the same mistakes.
Some of the qualities you need to complete a blogging challenge are the same as you would need for a physical challenge, learning a new skill or achieving something challenging such as a degree. Things like:
- Hard work
Now I’ve just realised that you might not know me and might have stumbled across this blog by accident, so let me introduce myself! I’m Honey Lansdowne, based in West Sussex, UK. My whole life I have been fascinated with self-improvement, people and maximising the power of the mind. In my Corporate life I was always the first one to put my hand up for a new challenge or training course. I spent many years sharing that learning with teams I managed and developed many high performers and top teams.
Eventually, I couldn’t resist any longer and took a NLP Practitioner course. Since then I have been pretty much obsessed with learning everything I can which will help others. I run a succesfull Hypnotherapy practice and specialise in helping people with depression and what I call ‘work of the self’.
I’m quite well qualified on the ‘mindset’ front and find it pretty easy to motivate myself, but that’s not all that’s involved in a blogging challenge…..
Warm up your creativity
To create interesting blogs that will be of value to your readers you need to get creative! Creativity is a muscle just like your physical muscles. I don’t believe there is any such thing as someone who is ‘not creative’. It depends what your definition of creativity is. We only judge ourselves in line with our own map of the world, so if your definition of creative is someone arty or someone that writes and you don’t consider yourself good at those things then you think you are not creative. BUT…
- Are you a whizz in the kitchen?
- Do you make up silly songs for your kids?
- Do you wear outfits that people say ‘wow’ at?
- Is your interior design on point?
- Can you dance?
- Do you make little videos for instagram?
- Can you generate money when you have none?
- Can you calm a difficult child?
These are all examples of creativity. We all have it but maybe don’t recognise it as creativity. Maybe you’ve told yourself ‘I can’t write’ or ‘I can’t draw’. You have created your own limiting belief when the truth is that if you tried it and practice it, you might be really good at it!
And for you logical and analytical thinkers out there who are more inclined to say you are not creative, there are some good examples here of creativity in the workplace:
- Brainstorming ways to cut energy use
- Coming up with new procedures to improve quality
- Constructing a research model to test a hypothesis
- Creating the packaging for a product
- Designing a logo
- Developing a litigation strategy to defend a client
- Devising a computer program to automate the billing process
- Devising a social media strategy for the new iPhone
- Identifying ways to cut costs during a budget crisis
- Redefining job responsibilities to cover for a sick employee
- Restructuring a filing system to facilitate easier retrieval of information
Warm up your support
I’m doing my 30 day blogging challenge under the clever/caring/inspiring eyes of The Arrows. That’s Sarah and Kevin Arrow (who are 2 of my favourite people!). Not only are they experts in their field, but they are 2 of the nicest people you could ever wish to meet. They have amazing energy and you need some of that if you are doing a blogging challenge!
There are also some amazing fellow bloggers doing the challenge in October and I will be sharing some of their best posts over the next 30 days (because I love reading other people’s blogs and getting an insight into their world).
Warm up your audience
That’s you! If you are reading this you are now part of my audience and I aim to open your mind, engage you (yes that means comments on my blogs and sharing on Facebook pretty please) and show you things that I find interesting in the hope that you will too!
Some of the topics I will be covering:
- The way I work with clients
- How I help clients have better lives
- Modern women
- Modern man
- Emotional healing
- Weight loss
- Book reviews
So something for everyone with a mind 🙂
p.s. If you need help now with depression, anxiety, stress, stop smoking, weight loss, a phobia, addiction or need emotional healing, please get in touch.
The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy
It’s big thing to say change you can change peoples lives. Surgeons can say it, the people at lottery HQ can say it and maybe Apple can say it! But why can a Hypnotherapist say it?!
It’s unlikely that everyone makes it through life without encountering some sort of issue. Issues like:
Stress which can be work related, relationship related or simply life related and untreated stress can lead to depression
Anxiety which can manifest in many ways including post traumatic stress disorder, social phobia and panic attacks
Grief related to someone passing away or the loss of something important to you
Poor sleep which can really disrupt everything in your life
Depression which can affect anyone and create a cloud in your life. There is a useful factsheet here about depression
Uncertainty about life direction which can really make you feel lost
Emotional pain which can lurk for years but refuse to go away until it’s dealt with
Phobias which are sometimes irrational but life affecting
Weight gain which affects your confidence or self esteem
So how do people overcome these issues? The most popular adage is that time is a great healer. I would argue here that in many cases the unconcious mind buries the issue and it often appears later in an unwanted behaviour or emotion.
If time healed everything I wouldn’t see so many clients that were affected by issues and traumas that occured years ago or even in childhood. This pain is often disguised by the person telling themselves that they dealt with everything and their depression, anxiety or weight gain have happened because of another reason.
You could ride the issue out of course. This can take 1, 10,20,30 years! You can find all sorts of workarounds to avoid exposing the issue and live a life with exceptions because of the issue. You won’t know how long the issue will last and the longer you carry it, the more ingrained it becomes as a habit which might make you feel frustrated and upset. But it might go. One day.
You could go for counceling, CBT or other therapies and these work for many people but often the number of sessions is high which can be a big time and cost investment. I have a blog post about the difference between Counselling and Hypnotherapy here.
Sometimes people find that these kind of therapies don’t help and my view on this is that this may be down to when we talk about our issues, we relive them. This gives the brain another experience of the issue to use as evidence that we have an issue. (Stick with me here). You also get another experience to remind you how the issue make you feel rather than the opportunity to experience a different feeling about the issue, which is how Hypnotherapy works. The brain carries a negative bias (meaning it finds it easier to think negatively than positively) so if you remind it of a negative experience or feeling it will focus on that. If you give your brain positive feelings and thoughts it will be pulled in that direction instead.
You could ignore the issue. An issue will pop up in the most unexpected of ways until you deal with it. The good news is that when an issue won’t go away until you resolve it, it will keep reminding you until you do. Notice these signs if you can so that anxiety doesn’t turn to depression or that food doesn’t become your solace etc.
So how does Hypnotherapy change lives?
When I started offering Hypnotherapy I underestimated it. People would come, I would make them feel better and they would be happy, get rid of their phobia, feel less depressed, overcome their anxiety, give up smoking whatever. But over the years as I have developed my Hypnotherapy skills, introduced Harley Street techniques and continued to use NLP at Master level I have seen many lives ‘change’.
Becoming a non-smoker
Take a smoker. Many smokers have tried to give up smoking a fair few times and feel frustrated and desperate to kick the habit but just can’t do it by themselves. They do some research and the idea of Hypnotherapy comes to them. They have their treatment and stop smoking easily. They are healthier, wealthier and free of the habit. It’s the easiest way to give up.
For some people losing weight changes their lives. They find that once they lose weight they have more energy and maybe start exercising. Maybe they find the confidence to do new things, go to new places, get a partner or a new job. Losing weight with Hypnotherapy can change people’s lives in many ways. And when I help you lose weight with Hypnotherapy, I build in healthy eating habits, portion control and confidence. And if necessary we fully explore the reasons for your weight gain or overeating and make that a thing of the past.
Being free of depression
If you suffer from depression you may feel like you are living under a dark cloud; like you can’t get motivated to do anything or really enjoy your life. Can you imagine how your life would change if you didn’t feel depressed? What would be different for you? Maybe your social life would be different or you would achieve more of the things that you really want to do. Or maybe your relationships would be better or you would just be much happier. Living without depression is definitely life changing.
Anxiety sufferers can be the most enthusiastic about their life changes! What’s not to like about a life without panic attacks, sweats, shortness of breath or routines you have to run because you feel controlled by your anxiety. I use a blend of techniques to help my anxiety clients and sometimes it can take as little as one session to remove anxiety they have carried for years (although I don’t guarantee one session because there should not be that expectation and every case in individual). I also provide all my anxiety clients with a maintenance plan so they have the confidence to know that they are in total control, whatever comes their way.
Live longer by dealing with stress
Now I don’t want to use scare tactics here but they do actually say that stress is the ‘silent killer. It is unbelievable how many people are living with stress to different degrees. You don’t need to be a stressful job or a turbulent relationship to suffer from stress (although these probably aren’t helpful to anyone). The definition of stress is how you cope in any given situation. So you could be stressed by normal life, family, work or even boredom. Hypnotherapy is deeply relaxing. It takes you to a calm place you may not have connected with before and just like going to the gym to exercise your body muscles, the more you exercise your mind ‘calm’ muscle, the stronger it gets. This means that you find it easier to remain calm and harder to be stressed. Hypnotherapy treatment for stress is more than just feeling relaxed, I help my clients look at their stress triggers and alternative ways to cope with those triggers. When you have less stress in your life this can be life changing if you sleep better, lower your blood pressure, have less anger and better relationships. You can also think more clearly and you are likely to be more creative as creativity is located in the unconscious mind which is present where you are relaxed.
So Hypnotherapists really do change lives. It’s a very rewarding job and every client’s success means that I never tire of this work and training and developing further.
How can I help you change your life?
- Your starting point might be to try my free relaxing download by signing up to my newsletter
- You might be fed up of living with your issue and want to take action NOW. So send me an email and I will give you a call to have a chat and make an appointment
I can wait to see what your new life looks like 🙂
Sending you magical vibes.
Is your mind unsettled?
Settled is a nice word. We settle babies when they are restless. We settle down into families, house, places, jobs, gym routines, diets.
But being unsettled in not nice. Particularly if it’s your mind that feels unsettled because somehow your mind feels like it affects everything about you. If you have a toothache, it’s unpleasant and painful but it doesn’t upset your whole body. It’s isolated to your mouth and your mouth feels ‘unsettled’. You just want it to be ok and ‘normal’ again.
But when your mind feels unsettled, it will affect all of you. Your mood, your energy, your ability, your communication and it might make you feel very restless and uneasy. Maybe physically sick or dizzy and you want to escape these feelings but you can’t because it’s your mind and you are stuck with it.
The symptoms of an unsettled mind:
An unsettled mind makes for an unsettled sleep. The brain likes to empty itself of anything unnecessary during sleep. But if your mind is unsettled you might find yourself tossing and turning in bed when it’s time to go to sleep. Or you might be able to get to sleep but wake in the night and find it difficult to go back to sleep. This can be very frustrating and the more you get frustrated the harder it is to get back to sleep. Or maybe you know you operate best on 8 hours of sleep but you keep waking up early before your alarm goes off and you can’t get back to sleep.
Unable to concentrate
You know how this feels. You want to do something but you don’t know what. When you feel negatively aroused your brain can go into a survival state, looking and listening for danger so it can keep you safe. The problem is that if your brain believes there is a danger lurking it will want to concentrate on that, not what else you want it to do. This can actually turn into an anxious state. If you are focused on feeling anxious or unsettled, it’s unlikely you will be able to focus on anything else. The more you worry about not being able to concentrate, the more you flit from thing to thing, not achieving much at all. Sometimes you are better to just give yourself a break. Do something that will make you feel better rather than one of the things on your to do list.
Appetite can go either way when people have unsettled minds. But whether you overeat or under-eat the likelihood is that you will make bad choices. It’s unlikely you will feel as in control of your eating as you would like to be. When you feel strong of mind and in control, it is easy to meal plan and create healthy food to nourish yourself.
When your mind is unsettled you won’t feel your confident self. You will be distracted and you will not have your full power. Because you feel less confident you might withdraw. This could give you time to heal but sometimes the right people can help lift you up. Help you understand that this will pass and you can get control back.
Here are some things you can do to settle your mind:
1 – Give yourself a sense of control. Do something easy and small which helps you feel back in control.
2 – Relax. Reassure your mind that there is no reason to worry.
3 – Be kind towards yourself. Life is full of challenges and this means that we will feel unsettled from time to time so ride it out and it will pass.
If feeling unsettled is not an ‘every now and then’ occurence and it is causing you a problem. Get in touch and we can work together to settle your mind and give you techniques for the future.
This blog is one in a series about self-development and ways to help you manage your mental health. I’m providing techniques and advice a Hypnotherapist and coach working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.
Quick review of yesterday’s list:
Yesterday you wrote a list of your favourite sounds. Are you going out of your way to listen to them to bring more joy into your life?
Your ‘getting ‘settled’ list.
For today’s list try to write a couple of things down that would make you feel more settled or things you can tell yourself the next time you feel unsettled. Then you have something to refer to in the future.
If you would like a free 20 minute consultation, please get in touch on 07530 890089 or at [email protected]
Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).