30 days to a happier you – Play to your strengths

Play to your strengths, be like the Mr Men

The Mr Men are unequivocally themselves. Their very names sum them up.

You don’t catch Mr Small apologising for being small. And Mr Daydream doesn’t try and be something he is not. And Mr Noisy is proud of his noise. They know themselves very well and flaunt it at every opportunity. There is no doubt about who they are!

All too often we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others. Wouldn’t it be better to have your own rock solid identity? Then you could acknowledge the things that are good about others but not feel insecure? And when we don’t feel inferior to others, we will let more of our true selves shine through.

Maybe you feel you have to live up to other people’s expectations of you. This can cause unhappiness as you feel under pressure or stifled. Unsure of your place in a relationship, job or group. Or maybe you feel a bit disconnected from things?

You could find yourself trying to fit in but it doesn’t feel great and gives you an uneasy feeling every time you are in that situation. It can feel like living a lie.

What would Greg say on Masterchef?

You know on Masterchef when Greg tastes the puddings and has that disappointed look. He will say that he wanted that orange sorbet to be more ‘orangey’. If only the contestant had used more orange zest to really show its orangey flavour.

Or when on The Apprentice they do the interviews towards the end and try and ‘break’ the candidate by putting them under pressure to see how they cope. Because what they are really looking for is a deeper insight into that person. What is really underneath that Gucci suit and go getter attitude?

I work with clients to get inside themselves and know what makes them tick. Sometimes it comes as a surprise as to what your true values are. You might have been chasing the things that you thought would make you happy. But they don’t.

Play to your strengths

Part of letting you shine through is knowing your strengths. Playing to your strengths. Feeling good about yourself and stepping into your power.

We started work on this yesterday as your exercise was to:

  • Make a list of 10 things that make you special
  • Make a list of 5 things that are unique about you
  • Write down one physical thing you like about yourself
  • Ask people close to you to do this for you too

Here’s a few ideas on possible strengths that you might not have realised were strengths:

  • Getting things done
  • Being kind
  • Humour
  • Patience
  • Budgeting
  • Creativity
  • Compassion
  • Being a great organiser
  • Sharing knowledge
  • Always being there for friends

What is Andy Murray good at?

Playing to your strengths is important. No one expects Andy Murray to win at swimming. Or David Beckham to compete in snooker. Because they are brilliant at tennis and football and put their energy into letting their strength shine through.

When you play to your strengths, people see you at your best. You feel your best and that gives you energy and confidence

When you are more you, you will find you compare yourself to others less. It won’t matter than Tina has more friends than you, or Richard is fitter, or Martine is more organised. They are them and you are you. And that is your power.

Here’s the plan:

  • Make sure you are clear on the things that make you special and the things that are unique about you.
  • Be you. Work it 🙂
  • Let me know how you are getting on in the comments of this blog, by email or on Facebook

Happy hug 🙂




Honey Lansdowne is a successful Hypnotherapist in Worthing. She uses Hypnosis, NLP and 20 years coaching experience to help people overcome anxiety and depression in person and online.

  • Love it, we are all unique but forget to reflect on those qualities once you know what your unique traits are you become further Empowered….me I am a unique Diva….

  • Nicely written & good reminder to us all. I’ve never bothered about comparing myself to others, I never really saw others as a competition. I didn’t really know why. But I’ve always been a good listener, I can see things that others can’t and I’m really good at solving problems. I’ve only recently found out about HSP trait and it explains so much, how I’m with people and the world. It’s my secret strength…

  • Maria says:

    Our three kids are uniquely different. They know that because we always point that to them. That may be why they are comfortable in their own skin and don’t compare themselves to their siblings.

    Great post, Honey! Thank you. 🙂

  • I really like your writing style Honey, always positive and with a strong message supported by great examples

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