It’s easy to think other people are ‘lucky’.
But lucky is often mixed with our own judgements and based on the things we think we want. Our view of lucky is often also based on seeing just one aspect of something.
Here are some common things we might think people are lucky for being:
- In a relationship
- Good looking
When you say ‘aren’t they lucky’ about the people above. Are you really saying ‘I wish I had that’?
Looking at the list above all of these things are in your control to have. The only thing that stands between you and the things on this list is you.
I realise at this point you might be questioning is how you become good looking! But beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
You might not look the way you want to but in this modern day, you can pretty much improve how you look in every way.
But more importantly, if you like what you already have, add a smile and some inner beauty, the world will see your beauty. Don’t you worry about that.
The truth behind lucky
Lucky is a state of mind. Lucky is being grateful for the things you have and not comparing yourself to others. Lucky is making your own luck. Lucky is not placing your happiness in the dangerous position thinking of what you don’t have, but taking real stock of the things you do. Understanding what gives you pleasure and how you can feed you soul.
Let’s look at some of the possible truths behind some of the lucky people on the list above.
- Sharon is wealthy. She has a lovely house and a nice Audi. Her husband has his own business and works all the hours god sends. He has had an affair in the past and expects Sharon to ‘get over this’. Sharon is very lonely and wants to leave the marriage but doesn’t have the confidence. Is Sharon lucky?
- Lucy is slim. She has a nice figure and can wear pretty much whatever she likes without worrying about bulges. But Lucy suffers from anxiety. Sometimes she has panic attacks and it is a big deal for Lucy to go tot he shops on her own. Quite often she will become anxious in the shop and always has to know the quickest route to the exit in case she needs to leave in a hurry. She is unable to hold down a job due to her anxiety and has lived with her parents her whole life. She often worries about what the future holds for her. Is Lucy lucky?
- Tim is popular. He has lots of friends who like socialising and going to football matches. Some of Tim’s friends are married but Tim is single. To be honest he is starting to find the same old routine of drinking and going to matches a bit boring. He is searching deeper meaning in his life but finds this hard to say to anyone. The truth is he is feeling quite depressed. He knows if he said this to his mates they would take the mickey, so he keeps it all bottled up. Is Tim lucky?
Lucky is an illusion
So you see, lucky is almost an illusion. Lucky is living a life where you are true to yourself. Living a life where you are happy with what you have and appreicate much of the world around you.
Let me tell you about Rebecca. She has done some personal work to understand herself. She is open to the world around her. She walks her dog in the morning and notices the early morning dew on the grass and the first sight of an orange sunrise. Her dog makes her laugh.
Rebecca is a personal trainer. She left her corporate job where she was well paid but unhappy and stressed and pursued her passion of personal training. She loves helping people get fit, change their bodies and achieve the goals they have set themselves. She gets lots of thank you cards!
Rebecca is a stocky build, but healthy. She is thankful that she doesn’t have any addictions and she values time spent with friends (she has carefully selected people that feed her positive energy). Rebecca loves learning new exercises and healthy eating knowledge. It’s a win-win as she gets healthier and so do her clients.
She is growing her business but taking her time because although she likes the nice things in life, she values her work/life balance too. Rebecca is comfortable in her own skin. Is Rebecca lucky?
Make your own lucky list now
Write is your own lucky list. It’s a bit like a gratitude list.
Make a list of all the reasons you are lucky. and keep a copy somewhere you can look at it every time you need a boost.
Someone, somewhere probably thinks you are very lucky.