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10 ways that Hypnosis can help small business owners be more successful

This 10 ways that Hypnosis can help small business owners be more successful is an exciting post for me to write because as a Hypnotherapist discovering the endless uses for Hypnosis seems to be my life purpose!

In the past year I’ve been helping lots of small business owners improve their mindset so they can be more successful.

This week is American Express shop small week where you can get £5 for £10 spent. We also recently had Small Business Saturday and Local Business Week back in May. These are great marketing opportunities for small business but a good mindset will see you through an entire year.

 

So why Hypnosis for mindset?

Hypnosis is loved by those who understand and use it and misunderstood by many that don’t. One of my popular blog posts was this one in which I answered some of the common questions people ask about Hypnosis. I had a lot of calls from that post purely because people better understood what Hypnosis is and isn’t.

Hypnosis isn’t ‘woo woo’. You don’t have to believe in it for it to work. It is a process of bypassing the critical factor (the logical part) of your mind, to get to your unconscious mind, which is the part that calls the shots.

So if you spend lots of time and energy on doing all the things you think you need to do to be successful, life and business could be so much easier if you tapped into your greatest asset. The power of your unconscious mind.

Here are the 10 ways that Hypnosis can help small business owners be more successful

man with self belief

1 – Self-belief

I consider this to be the biggest issue for entrepreneurs. Many have great ideas, business plans, amazing websites and good products. But you need self-belief to keep going, to overcome hurdles and to achieve your dreams. It’s different to confidence because you can be outwardly confident, but inwardly giving yourself negative self-talk like ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I will fail’ and ‘I’m not good enough’. Not having self-belief makes you doubt yourself and not ‘go for it’.

Having self-belief is a game changer because it makes you believe you can do anything and not to listen to nay sayers.

Sports people probably understand this the most. When they are about to start their game or race, they HAVE to believe they can win. That’s why so many sports people have coaching and many use Hypnosis and NLP to increase their self-belief.

2 – Confidence

You wouldn’t believe how many ‘big business’ names have coaching to increase their confidence. It helps with presentations, public speaking  and leading teams but also it feels good. It’s normal to have a few nerves before an interview or public speaking event, they can be useful in creating adrenalin. But no one wants to be a nervous wreck in the toilets before an important event or meeting.

Hypnosis can eliminate reasons that you don’t feel confident and create ‘anchors’ for you to use to give you a boost. Confidence is a state of mind so it makes sense that Hypnosis is brilliant for increasing confidence.

3 – Removing blocks

Procrastination is the nemesis of many entrepreneurs. Maybe you know what needs to be done and just can’t understand why you are not doing it. And then you see other people around you doing it. Maybe your competitors!

You know what you need to do and why so why aren’t you doing it? You can’t understand it. This is because these blocks are held in your unconscious. You can’t access them yourself because they are not known to your conscious mind. I can’t tell you how many people have ‘wow’ moments and clear blocks during Hypnosis.

4 – Strategy

 

strategy in chess

If you are struggling to put a clear strategy together or can’t get a clear view of the ‘big picture’ for your 1,3,5 year plan, Hypnosis is marvelous for creating one. I use a technique where you create a map in your mind of the big picture and all the elements of getting there. This can be done in person or on Skype – try it!

5 – Creativity

Creativity is held in the right side of your brain and will become stifled if you are overloading the left side of the brain where you logic sits. Stress will also affect creativity because your brain can’t relax into that nice place where creative thoughts flow.

Have you ever noticed you have good ideas as you drift off to sleep, or after exercise or on holiday? This is because you are relaxing and your brain can perform at its creative best. In Hypnosis you connect to the unconscious mind where ideas and creativity come to the surface.

6 – Resilience

woman with resilience

Being in business (and life!) requires resilience. Resilience comes from self-awareness and taking action when you realise you need to. Hypnosis can help you let go of things that are worrying you and making you less resilient and teach you how to connect to a place inside where you can replenish and restore.

7 – Calm

Just in case you don’t know. A continuous state of stress isn’t good for you. Not meaning to scare you here but the World Health Organisation say more than half of the top causes of death are linked to stress. I wrote a blog about it here. Now the reality is that business can be stressful but it is how you manage your stress, not your workload that is important. Products, finances, customers, suppliers, employees… it all goes on. But some people can juggle all this and not feel the effects of stress and other people will feel very stressed.

Like resilience, awareness here is key. Know your stress signals and take action to address them when you feel them. More importantly, build relaxation time into your schedule on a regular basis. I have a free relaxing recording that you can listen to here. Just 12 minutes to totally unwind 🙂

8 – Winning business

I’ve had lots of clients who come to see me because things aren’t right in their lives. Maybe they feel a bit lost or confused about themselves. Or maybe issues from the past have presented themselves as unhelpful emotions which are getting in the way of winning business. With these issues dealt with in a few sessions of Hypnosis, winning business will be much easier with you feeling focused and energised.

Customers can sense when things are off balance so it pays to get things sorted so you are at your best when you are selling.

9 – Increased intuition

Intuition is a very useful business tool. although good planning and strategy are important, intuition is your internal compass.

If something isn’t right for you, your intuition will know this. Intuition is basically your unconscious mind and its job is to keep you safe and do its best for you. The more you are able to tap into your unconscious mind, the better your intuition will be able to help you do the things that are right for you.

 

10 – Creating an abundant mindset

An abundant mindset means not worrying about a ‘lack of’. A lack of clients or customers, a lack of money etc. an abundant mindset means you believe good things will come to you easily. If you believe there to be lots of customers for your services this gives you loads more opportunity to see and takes away ‘competitor envy’ because there is enough to go round. An abundant mindset means you are not scared to invest in yourself because you are worth it.

Because everything in life operations at a ‘vibrational level’ you will be sending positive messages to the world around you and this will manifest as good things being drawn to you. Now I know that sounds a bit ‘woo woo’ but it’s actually energetic principles in action!

 

So how can you use Hypnosis to have a more successful business?

I can help you with any of the ten things above, just get in touch to book a session and get the edge for 2018 in your business. Don’t let another year pass and struggle on with the same battles in your head, get them sorted and grab 2018 with both hands. This could be your best year yet.

These song lyrics reflect my work with clients I help with emotional healing

In this post I am going to use songs to reflect the work I do with clients that I help with emotional healing. This is such a precious element of my work and one I am very committed to and passionate about. I want you to hear where I am coming from with my energy and intention. Though music.

There are some healers and coaches who don’t have any official qualifications and are still doing a good job!  They have natural intuition and are able to help others. And others have intuition and like to back it up with skills and qualifications. The point is when people need help with emotional healing, they need to feel they are in safe, caring hands. The relationship and trust is so very very important in this kind of work. I feel honoured when I work with people in this way.

 

I think these songs say it all.

REM – Everybody Hurts

When your day is long
And the night
The night is yours alone
When you’re sure you’ve had enough
Of this life
Well hang on
Don’t let yourself go
‘Cause everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes
Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it’s time to sing along
When your day is night alone (hold on)
(Hold on) if you feel like letting go (hold on)
If you think you’ve had too much
Of this life
Well, hang on
‘Cause everybody hurts
Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts
Don’t throw your hand
Oh, no
Don’t throw your hand
If you feel like you’re alone
No, no, no, you’re not aloneIf you’re on your own in this life
The days and nights are long
When you think you’ve had too much
Of this life to hang on
Well, everybody hurts sometimes
Everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes
So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts

The Pretenders – I’ll Stand By You

Oh, why you look so sad?
Tears are in your eyes
Come on and come to me now Don’t be ashamed to cry
Let me see you through
’cause I’ve seen the dark side too
When the night falls on you
You don’t know what to do
Nothing you confess
Could make me love you lessI’ll stand by you
I’ll stand by you
Won’t let nobody hurt you
I’ll stand by youSo if you’re mad, get mad
Don’t hold it all inside
Come on and talk to me nowHey, what you got to hide?
I get angry too
Well I’m a lot like youWhen you’re standing at the crossroads
And don’t know which path to choose
Let me come along
’cause even if you’re wrong
I’ll stand by you
I’ll stand by you
Won’t let nobody hurt you
I’ll stand by you
Take me in, into your darkest hour
And I’ll never desert you
I’ll stand by you
And when, when the night falls on you, baby
You’re feeling all alone
You won’t be on your own
I’ll stand by you
I’ll stand by you
Won’t let nobody hurt you

Bob Marley – Three Little Birds

https://youtu.be/PGYAAsHT4QE

“Don’t worry about a thing
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright
Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!”
Rise up this morning
Smiled with the rising sun
Three little birds
Pitch by my doorstep
Singing sweet songs
Of melodies pure and true
Saying, “This is my message to you”
Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright
Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing (don’t worry)
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!”Rise up this morning
Smiled with the rising sun
Three little birds
Pitch by my doorstep
Singing sweet songs
Of melodies pure and true
Saying, “This is my message to you”Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing (worry about a thing, oh)
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright (don’t worry)
Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing (I won’t worry)
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!”Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright (I won’t worry)
Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright!”Singing: “Don’t worry about a thing (don’t worry about a thing)
Cause every little thing is gonna be alright

 

Nina Simone – Feeling Good

Birds flyin’ high, you know how I feel
Sun in the sky, you know how I feel
Breeze driftin’ on by, you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me.
Yeah, it’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me, ooooooooh…
And I’m feelin’ good.Fish in the sea, you know how I feel
River runnin’ free, you know how I feel
Blossom on the tree, you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me,
And I’m feelin’ good Dragonfly out in the sun, you know what I mean, don’t you know,
Butterflies all havin’ fun, you know what I mean.
Sleep in peace when day is done: that’s what I mean,
And this old world is a new world and a bold world for me…Stars when you shine, you know how I feel
Scent of the pine, you know how I feel
Yeah, freedom is mine, and I know how I feel..
It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me
And I’m feelin’… good.

https://youtu.be/OfJRX-8SXOs

 

The message I want to get across is…

When you’re sure you’ve had enough

Sometimes everything is wrong

If you think you’ve had too much

If you feel like you’re alone

Hold on

Come on and come to me now

’cause I’ve seen the dark side too

I’ll stand by you

Don’t hold it all inside

You’re feeling all alone

You won’t be on your own

Don’t worry about a thing

Cause every little thing is gonna be alright

This is my message to you

Rise up this morning

Singing sweet songs

It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me

And I’m feelin’ good

Sleep in peace when day is done

Yeah, freedom is mine, and I know how I feel..

It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me

And I’m feelin’… good

 

More about the emotional healing another day but if you need to sort something out please contact me. Even if we just have a chat, it’s worth it.

Honey

Everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong

So how can I be so sure that everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong? Well for two reasons. When I have free consultations with clients they usually have questions about Hypnosis which I like to sort out and answer as fully as I can before their sessions. And also, in preparation for this blog post I invited questions so I could answer them fully here.

 

Assumptions about Hypnosis

1 – You are under the Hypnotist’s ‘spell’ or control.

Hypnosis is not control. You can ignore suggestions given in trance if you want to, or if they are not in line with your wishes.

2 – Hypnosis is sleep

You are not asleep while in Hypnosis. Hypnosis is not sleep. In fact your mind is super alert! But you will probably feel deeply relaxed as relaxation is a wonderful by product of Hypnosis.

 

Questions people asked about Hypnosis

 

1 – Will it brainwash me?

Suggestions made in Hypnosis are hugely powerful. But they only take affect if you truly want them and accept them. For example… if you really want to stop smoking, Hypnosis will enhance all the reasons you already affirm are good reasons to stop.

One of the meanings of brainwashing is ‘to pressurise (someone) into adopting radically different beliefs by using systematic and often forcible means’.

So my diplomatic answer to this is – it can help you make true the things you already believe, but can’t achieve alone. NLP can change your beliefs but more about that in another post.

2 – Does it last forever?

This will vary for everyone. Some smokers stay stopped. Some don’t. I don’t have any stats around it, but many people change their lives and remove their unwanted habits with Hypnosis.

It’s like saying if someone gets rich, will they be rich forever. Well, they might maximise on their wealth or not, depending on the decisions and actions they take.

 

Think you can

3 – What if I don’t want to change?

Then Hypnosis is not for you. You have to want to change for it to work. Although you might still enjoy the relaxation elements of Hypnosis.

4 – Will Hypnosis erase my personality?

No cases on record 🙂

5 – Can Hypnosis give lasting mindset changes?

Your mind does not know what is real and what is not. If you watch a movie you know it’s actors, in costumes, on a film set, playing a story in front of a huge film crew. You still cry and laugh like it’s real don’t you?! Your mind believes it and the emotions are real.

If the suggestions you receive during Hypnosis are consistent with what you REALLY want, it will give you the change you seek.

6 – What happens in a trance?

Hypnosis is a natural state of mind; people are often surprised that they hear every word and could get up and walk out of the room at any moment. Unless you enter a deeper state, you may not feel much different. 

7 – Why do you speak directly to my subconscious?

I will talking much more about your subconscious mind in a separate blog. But an analogy is making changes in your conscious mind is like clearing your inbox, it helps at a surface level but real improvements happen at hard drive or cloud level and that is your subconscious! Your subconcious is much more powerful than your conscious mind so makes sense to use it!

Your subconscious is like the film of your life and your conscious like the photos. The subconscious knows everything and the conscious just has snapshots. So review the film to remind you of things from the past and address them so you can move on and feel better.

8 – I’ve had Hypno before but it didn’t work, should I try again?

I’m not going to be critical of my fellow Hypnotists here and put them at fault. I would say we all try things that don’t work at some point in our lives… relationships, diets, gym memberships, holidays, restaurants! Sometimes the time is not right, sometimes it’s the chemistry and sometimes it just is.

9 – What happens if I go to sleep?

The feeling can be similar to drifting off to sleep at night when you are not quite awake and not quite asleep but it is not sleep. If you were to fall asleep your Hypnotist would be able to sort this out and bring you back up to a suitable state.

10 – Will you make me do things I don’t want to?

Never.

11 – What’s the difference between stage Hypnosis and what you do?

A number of factors make stage Hypnosis different to therapeutic Hypnosis. When someone knows they are going to a Hypnosis stage show, they have probably decided if they will volunteer before they even arrive. They then put their hand up at the show and volunteer. They are giving their consent for Hypnosis to happen and they fully know some silliness will be involved! It is more likely than the volunteer is of an extroverted nature and enjoys being the star of the show.

12 – Will I definitely wake up?

You are not asleep. Please see answer to question 9

13 –  I find it hard to shut my brain down so struggle with meditation too. Can Hypnosis break through that?

Firstly, here is an interesting video about meditation myths:

I get loads of clients who can’t meditate but desperately want to relax. Meditation can take years to perfect! Think monks lol.

Hypnosis puts you in the hands of a skilled professional who can facilitate you reaching your desired or acheiveable state.

14 – Can I get stuck in Hypnosis?

Even from the deepest trance state (which is delicious), you will still emerge or fall into sleep when you are ready. So no. You can’t get stuck in Hypnosis.

15 – Can I be Hypnotised?

I’m going to be honest with you here. The level of success depends on two things. Your allowance to yourself to let it happen and removal of any fear to it happening (although there is nothing to be scared of). A Hypnotic trance is a feeling of relaxation, it is different for everyone. The more you do it, the better it gets!

There is also expectation. If you expect your Hypnotherapist to lay you out cold, this might not be your experience! During Hypnosis you are aware of everything that is being said and you can bring yourself at anytime you decide. But you probably won’t want to!

16 – How do I choose the right Hypnotherapist?

 

Honey Lansdowne

 

I’ve put myself in your shoes here because of course I want to say contact me! Some might give you recordings. Some might offer group sessions and 121. Some may specialise in certain areas like PTSD, weight loss, stop smoking, working with children, anxiety or phobias. I specialise in depression and what I call ‘work of the self’ (but I treat anything I consider feasible after a client consultation aswell).

When choosing your Hypnotherapist you might want to consider the way they work. They might favour a quick approach or prefer to see you for more sessions. Not every issue is a ‘quick fix’ although many can be. Some therapists (like myself) integrate Hypnosis with other therapies such as NLP for really deep work with their clients. You can cover so much ground and make real purposeful transformations in just a few sessions. I love the satisfaction of knowing that my clients have had the opportunity of an ’emotional deep cleanse’ which they often haven’t been able to fix even with weeks/months/years of Coaching, Counselling or Pyschotherapy. They walk away with a spring in their step.

To summarise:

You can’t be hypnotised if you don’t want to be hypnotised.
You can’t be made to do things that you don’t want to do.
You can’t get “stuck” in a hypnotic trance.
It is NOT mind control by one person over another.
It is your journey. The therapist is more like a guide.

 

So what do you think about Hypnosis now?

I loved writing this blog! And I would love to answer any other questions you might have in the comments so please type away!

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Sending you Hypnotic vibes 🙂

Honey

Why you need Hypnosis in your life

You may never have considered why you need Hypnosis in your life so please let me explain. For many people Hypnosis is a last resort, but I really wish it would catch on like Mindfulness has because so many people could be less troubled and have better lives.

What is Hypnotherapy?

Now,  I’m a Hypnotherapist who thinks Hypnotherapy is the best thing since sliced bread  so this could be a very long blog post! One that would probably put you into a trance! So in the interests of your time and my fingers, I am going to break it down over the next few days and today just tell you about the nuts and bolts.

Hypnotherapy is used to make changes to things that are negatively affecting people’s lives (see lists below) but also to put positivity in. Because your mind is very alert during Hypnosis positive statements are very well received. Imagine your affirmations but 100 times stronger.

Once you have learned Self-Hypnosis (your Hypnotherapist will teach you this), you can use Hypnosis to self-heal, relax, sleep or ‘sort your head out’. One of my favourite things about Hypnosis is being able to ‘declutter’ my mind and feel fabulous afterwards. Even better than a power nap!

Short history of Hypnosis goes something like this:

  • It’s been around over 2,500 years. It was used in ancient China, Egypt and Greece where the remnants of the sleep healing temple of Asklepios still exist.
  • Franz Mesmer (1770) experimented with what he called ‘animal magnetism’ which involved using Hypnosis and magnets. He was convinced that these techniques could banish illness and suffering, and they often did. He had a lot of success with it in its hashed form.
  • French and British physicians in the mid-1800s studied Mesmer’s work and discounted the use of magnets.
  • James Braid, a Scottish surgeon, around 1843 coined the term “hypnosis” from Hypnos, the Greek god of sleep.
  • In 1933, Clark Hull. In his book, Hypnosis and Suggestibility, proved pain reduction through hypnotic trance. He also showed that effects of hypnosis were symptomatic of suggestion and motivation. As a result of his work,. many soldiers benefited from Hypnosis pain relief in World War 2
  • Dr. Milton Erickson (1957) is said to have been a genius with his work using Hypnosis and used metaphoric stories which he personalised for each client.
  • Dave Elman wrote Findings in Hypnosis (1964) and created a hypnotic induction used by many Hypnotists today.

There are now many fabulous modern day Hypnotists many with chosen specialisms. There have been some amazing results proven with neuro-imaging devices which can see inside the brain to view in real time when someone is pretending, imagining, or using hypnotic suggestion.

Are you in a trance yet?

Probably! We dip in and out of trance many times a day. But what is trance? A trance is where you access the subconcious part of your mind. You actually have two minds. Did you know! One conscious (said to be 10%), the other subconscious (said to be 90%). More on those minds another time (remember that reader’s subconscious mind won’t you *wink*)

So what is Hypnosis?

Rubik cube

Hypnosis works by keeping the conscious mind occupied, which allows access to the subconscious mind where all the ‘stuff’ is stored. Your Hypnotherapist will then guide you to the issues that you’ve asked them for help with.

I think the best description for the feeling is that bit before you go to sleep when you are having thoughts (and they are sometimes amazing) but you wouldn’t necessarily be able to put them into words very easily. But it all makes perfect sense at the time! Many a puzzle or problem is resolved in Hypnosis.

Issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis (most common):

  • Anxiety (social anxiety, health anxiety, panic attacks)
  • Depression
  • Phobia
  • Sleep
  • PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder)
  • Self Esteem
  • Stop smoking
  • Weight loss
  • Confidence
  • Motivation
  • Fears
  • Pain management
  • Healing emotional wounds
  • Unwanted habits
  • Stress relief
  • Childbirth
  • Sports performance
  • Exam revision and nerves

 

Other issues that can be addressed with Hypnosis:

  • Dyslexia
  • Bulimia nervosa
  • Anorexia nervosa
  • Alcohol
  • Drugs
  • Asthma
  • Hyperventilation
  • Migraines
  • Warts
  • Eczema
  • Stuttering
  • IBS
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Chronic fatigue syndrome
  • Rheumatoid athritus
  • Oncology
  • Fertility
  • OCD
  • Tinnitus

 

Childrens’ issues

  • Bedwetting
  • Anxiety
  • Eating
  • Sleeping
  • Confidence
  • Thumb sucking

 

Does it work on everyone?

Young children are in Hypnosis already so make excellent clients. They just love metaphoric stories which appeal to their wonderful imaginations.

Adults suggestibility varies. I talk about suggestibility on another post called ‘everything you think about Hypnosis is probably wrong!’.  It is nothing to do with being gullible or belief.

The more you go into Hypnosis, the better you get at it. Imagine being able to slip into a state where you felt more relaxed and able to self-heal, whenever you like. They should do belts in it like Karate (I would be a black belt lol).

What can’t Hypnosis do?

Hypnosis is such a versatile tool. It harness the greatest power of your mind, the subconscious to address issues and creative possibilities. Ask any Hypnotherapist or anyone who has resolved an issue with Hypnotherapy and they will tell you. It is life changing.

You don’t need to live with your ghosts of the past. Hypnosis doesn’t change the past but certainly allows you to accept it and move on.

Hypnosis gives you personal power. The realisation that the story in your head is not the story of your future. The things that limit you simply need tweaking in your mind and off you go. The world is your oyster.

And oh! It works on physical pain too. The effect of positive thinking on the body is no secret. Ask anyone who has defied their medical diagnosis of expected lifespan for a disease.

Oh sorry I was meant to be telling you what Hypnosis can’t do wasn’t I?! It can’t make you win the lottery, it can’t make someone love you and it can’t give you perfectly behaved children. There you go lol. Seriously though, it doesn’t work on someone who isn’t committed to the change they say they seek.

The important thing for a successful Hypnosis treatment is that any concerns or fear are removed for the client and the client is motivated to change.

You want to try it now don’t you?

If this post has made you want to try Hypnosis NOW, then please get in touch and I will squeeze you in as soon as I can 🙂

 

 

Does your fear of flying make holidays a nightmare?

Does your fear of flying make holidays a nightmare?

Are you a nervous flyer? Is it the fear of being out of control or the fear of crashing that bothers you? You are not alone; it is estimated that 1 in 6 people have a fear of flying. And the extent of the fear can range vary greatly:

  • Worrying about an upcoming flight
  • Feeling nervous and shaky at the airport
  • Crying, shallow breathing and intense fear on the flight
  • Panic attacks in the lead up to or on the flight
  • Fear so great it stops you flying at all

Sometimes the fear can have been in place for a long time or even a lifetime which makes it hard for you to believe that you can get rid of it. But you absolutely can! Hypnotherapy is well known for helping people overcome fears and phobias and it is very effective as a treatment to remove fear of flying.

The treatment I offer is a mix of Hypnotherapy, Psy-Tap and NLP for very powerful and permanent results. And happy holidays! Often the fear can be removed in one session, two at the most.

Often flying is not the fear

The unconcious mind will always act in what it believes to be in your best interest to keep you safe. It can link unrelated events to fears and phobias and your concious mind doesn’t know or recognise this,  but you know you are scared even if you don’t understand why. Removing fear of flying or other fears often has more benefits than just being able to fly without fear. You will feel lighter, happier and more free than you have in a long time, because you have offloaded and gained confidence that you can overcome issues.

What adventure would you love to experience if you no longer had a fear of flying?

Taj Mahal

Is there somewhere you’ve always wanted to go on holiday?  See the Grand Canyon, the Great Barrier Reef or the Taj Mahal? Or relax in Thailand or see the big five in Africa?

 

 

Or maybe you want the dream honeymoon without the nightmare flight?  Or maybe you’ve been invited to a wedding or celebration abroad and would love to go? Or maybe you’ve got your eye on a job which has international travel and your fear of flying has stopped you going for it?

 

family reunionOr maybe you have family abroad and you would love to visit them, see where they live and spend time hanging out with them and their friends and family. In 2017 distance shouldn’t be a problem to nurturing those valuable relationships and neither should a fear of flying.

 

 

 

I can help you overcome your fear of flying very easily

I use Hypnotherapy, Psy-Tap and NLP to help you rapidly and effectively overcome your flying phobia, no matter how extreme. You will be booking your adventure soon after your session/s.

Although every client is unique, fears and phobias stand together as FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real. The brain doesn’t know the difference between fiction and truth so whether it’s a fear of flying, spiders, heights, public speaking, confined spaces or whatever, the theory of the treatment is the same.

To book your appointment and start your life of adventure please get in touch by email 

I can see you in my Hypnotherapy practice in West Sussex which covers the areas of Worthing, Lancing, Shoreham, Brighton, Ferring, Findon and Angmering or Worldwide on Skype in the comfort of your own home.

If you know someone that you would love to come on holiday with you but they won’t because they are scared of flying please share this blog with them.

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

The life changing secrets of Hypnotherapy

It’s big thing to say change you can change peoples lives. Surgeons can say it, the people at lottery HQ can say it and maybe Apple can say it! But why can a Hypnotherapist say it?!

It’s unlikely that everyone makes it through life without encountering some sort of issue. Issues like:

Stress which can be work related, relationship related or simply life related and untreated stress can lead to depression

 

Anxiety which can manifest in many ways including post traumatic stress disorder, social phobia and panic attacks
 
Grief related to someone passing away or the loss of something important to you

 

Poor sleep which can really disrupt everything in your life

 

Depression which can affect anyone and create a cloud in your life. There is a useful factsheet here about depression

 

Uncertainty about life direction which can really make you feel lost

 

Emotional pain which can lurk for years but refuse to go away until it’s dealt with

 

Phobias which are sometimes irrational but life affecting

 

Weight gain which affects your confidence or self esteem 

 

Overcoming issues

 

So how do people overcome these issues? The most popular adage is that time is a great healer. I would argue here that in many cases the unconcious mind buries the issue and it often appears later in an unwanted behaviour or emotion.

If time healed everything I wouldn’t see so many clients that were affected by issues and traumas that occured years ago or even  in childhood. This pain is often disguised by the person telling themselves that they dealt with everything and their depression, anxiety or weight gain have happened because of another reason.

You could ride the issue out of course. This can take 1, 10,20,30 years! You can find all sorts of workarounds to avoid exposing the issue and live a life with exceptions because of the issue. You won’t know how long the issue will last and the longer you carry it, the more ingrained it becomes as a habit which might make you feel frustrated and upset. But it might go. One day.

You could go for counceling, CBT or other therapies and these work for many people but often the number of sessions is high which can be a big time and cost investment. I have a blog post about the difference between Counselling and Hypnotherapy here.

Sometimes people find that these kind of therapies don’t help and my view on this is that this may be down to when we talk about our issues, we relive them.  This gives the brain another experience of the issue to use as evidence that we have an issue. (Stick with me here). You also get another experience to remind you how the issue make you feel rather than the opportunity to experience a different feeling about the issue, which is how Hypnotherapy works. The brain carries a negative bias (meaning it finds it easier to think negatively than positively) so if you remind it of a negative experience or feeling it will focus on that. If you give your brain positive feelings and thoughts it will be pulled in that direction instead.

Interupted sleep

You could ignore the issue. An issue will pop up in the most unexpected of ways until you deal with it. The good news is that when an issue won’t go away until you resolve it, it will keep reminding you until you do. Notice these signs if you can so that anxiety doesn’t turn to depression or that food doesn’t become your solace etc.

So how does Hypnotherapy change lives?

 

When I started offering Hypnotherapy I underestimated it. People would come, I would make them feel better and they would be happy, get rid of their phobia, feel less depressed, overcome their anxiety, give up smoking whatever. But over the years as I have developed my Hypnotherapy skills, introduced Harley Street techniques and continued to use NLP at Master level I have seen many lives ‘change’.

Becoming a non-smoker

Take a smoker. Many smokers have tried to give up smoking a fair few times and feel frustrated and desperate to kick the habit but just can’t do it by themselves. They do some research and the idea of Hypnotherapy comes to them. They have their treatment and stop smoking easily. They are healthier, wealthier and free of the habit. It’s the easiest way to give up.

Losing weight

For some people losing weight changes their lives. They find that once they lose weight they have more energy and maybe start exercising. Maybe they find the confidence to do new things, go to new places, get a partner or a new job. Losing weight with Hypnotherapy can change people’s lives in many ways. And when I help you lose weight with Hypnotherapy, I build in healthy eating habits, portion control and confidence. And if necessary we fully explore the reasons for your weight gain or overeating and make that a thing of the past.

Being free of depression

freedom from depression

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you suffer from depression you may feel like you are living under a dark cloud; like you can’t get motivated to do anything or really enjoy your life. Can you imagine how your life would change if you didn’t feel depressed? What would be different for you? Maybe your social life would be different or you would achieve more of the things that you really want to do. Or maybe your relationships would be better or you would just be much happier. Living without depression is definitely life changing.

Overcoming anxiety

Anxiety sufferers can be the most enthusiastic about their life changes! What’s not to like about a life without panic attacks, sweats, shortness of breath or routines you have to run because you feel controlled by your anxiety. I use a blend of techniques to help my anxiety clients and sometimes it can take as little as one session to remove anxiety they have carried for years (although I don’t guarantee one session because there should not be that expectation and every case in individual). I also provide all my anxiety clients with a maintenance plan so they have the confidence to know that they are in total control, whatever comes their way.

Live longer by dealing with stress

Now I don’t want to use scare tactics here but they do actually say that stress is the ‘silent killer. It is unbelievable how many people are living with stress to different degrees. You don’t need to be a stressful job or a turbulent relationship to suffer from stress (although these probably aren’t helpful to anyone). The definition of stress is how you cope in any given situation. So you could be stressed by normal life, family, work or even boredom. Hypnotherapy is deeply relaxing. It takes you to a calm place you may not have connected with before and just like going to the gym to exercise your body muscles, the more you exercise your mind ‘calm’ muscle, the stronger it gets. This means that you find it easier to remain calm and harder to be stressed. Hypnotherapy treatment for stress is more than just feeling relaxed, I help my clients look at their stress triggers and alternative ways to cope with those triggers. When you have less stress in your life this can be life changing if you sleep better, lower your blood pressure, have less anger and better relationships. You can also think more clearly and you are likely to be more creative as creativity is located in the unconscious mind which is present where you are relaxed.

So Hypnotherapists really do change lives. It’s a very rewarding job and every client’s success means that I never tire of this work and training and developing further.

How can I help you change your life?

  • Your starting point might be to try my free relaxing download by signing up to my newsletter
  • You might be fed up of living with your issue and want to take action NOW. So send me an email and I will give you a call to have a chat and make an appointment

I can wait to see what your new life looks like 🙂

Sending you magical vibes.

Honey

x

3 Simple Steps to Creating New Habits – guest post from Sarah Arrow

3 Simple Steps to Creating New Habits

You walk into your home and you kick off your shoes in the hallway. You’ve done this ever since you could toddle. You don’t want dirty shoes on the carpet, so you leave them in the hall. That’s a great habit to have. If only you could remember to hang your coat on the hook instead over the bannister… how come you have a great habit and the one that’s not so hot, you just can’t correct?

We all have times in our lives where we intentionally want to change our behaviour for the better. This means creating new habits for ourselves. This could be the so-called simple things like getting in the habit of eating healthier, or drinking more water. It could be moving more, eating less and taking the dog for a daily walk before she whines and looks longingly at her lead.

Maybe it’s work related, or spiritual, or… There are so many areas in our lives that you may be wishing to improve and feel that life would be easier if we just did these things.

Getting into the habit of doing something is often easier said than done. We seem to attract bad habits without any effort, but getting into a “good” habit can be a little more challenging.

Let’s break it down into a three step process that makes it easy to follow until we’ve internalized the new behaviour and made it a true habit – something we do automatically without having to think about, like brushing our teeth.

1 – Decide What You Want To Do

The first step is to decide what you want that new habit to be. Be as specific as possible. Don’t just tell yourself you want to exercise more if that worked you wouldn’t ne reading this right now. Instead say something like “I will go for a 30 minute walk every single day”. If you struggle with this, try an Affirmation (by Noah St John, book of the same name) and say “Why do I find going for a walk every day so enjoyable?” or “Why do I look forward to my 30 minute walk every day?”

Deciding what your new habit will be and then commit to it. Not a wishy-washy commitment, but a full on teenage crush style commitment. You know the kind that has people rolling their eyes, but you are all into it. That’s the level of commitment you want for your new habit.

2 – Remind Yourself To Get It Done

The next few days should be smooth sailing. You’re motivated and excited to get this done. Sticking to your new habit isn’t an issue. But a few days in you’ll notice that it’s easy to slip back into old routines.

Maybe it’s raining and you don’t really want to go out and walk. Or maybe your day just gets away from you (who hasn’t had one of those?). This is when it’s important to have a daily reminder. Set an alert on your phone or add the new habit to your daily to-do list for a while.

 

3 – Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit

Which brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behaviour becomes a true habit. There’s only one way to make change happen overnight, and that’s a Hypnotherapy session with Honey. Until then, a routine will work to your advantage. Even before the new behaviour becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower or relying on daily reminders.

Which leads me nicely into… Sometimes a bad, or no longer useful habit is so deeply embedded that you need some help to clear it out. There’s nothing like a bit of Hypnotherapy to help you get a new habit firmly in place, and kick and old one to touch. If you find yourself habitually breaking new habits get Honey’s help.

Sarah Arrow helps bloggers get the blogging habit.

Nothing changes if nothing changes

Nothing changes if nothing changes might sound obvious, but it really is as simple as that.

Let’s look at the most common things that people want to change:

The way you feel

It amazes me how people get trapped in a spiral of negative thinking of sadness and miss out on so much in their life because they simple don’t know that things can be different. The first thing to note here is that your brain has a negative bias. This means for most people they need to put effort into feeling positive and happy. But the benefits are worth it because you get a nice dose of Dopamine which controls your brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Dopamine  also regulates emotional responses and motivates us to take action towards things that make us feel rewarded. What this means is once you’ve felt good, you will want to do it more and more.

If you have Hypnotherapy for depression (which affects 1 in 3 people at any one time and most people at some point in their lives) you will feel a numbers of benefits:

  • Release issues from the past
  • Feel more energised
  • Break the pattern of negative thinking
  • Obtain techniques for nipping negative feelings in the bud and seeking out more pleasurable feelings
  • Break the cycle

 

The way you look

This can be as simple as wanting a new colour hair or a different hairstyle to something like wanting cosmetic surgery. If you really hate something about the way you look then sometimes it’s not the way you look at all but your thoughts. I’ve actually had quite a few clients in my Hypnotherapy practice who don’t like the way they look and we’ve done what I call ‘work of the self’ to increase self-confidence and self-esteem. After this change work, the way they look is less of an issue. The trouble seems to be that the easiest way to judge someone is how they look and society supports this and people can wind up feeling inferior for absolutely no reason.

The biggest issue for people not liking the way they look seems to be if they feel they are overweight. But losing weight is hard for many and they need support. Hypnotherapy for weight loss really is the easiest way because it doesn’t mean another ‘diet’.  Hypnotherapy for weight loss means you make healthier choices automatically and reasons you might comfort eat for emotional reasons are addressed. you also have the added benefit of motivation and increased confidence being built in.

 

There are things you want to move away from….

Addictions such as smoking

It’s quite unusual to meet a smoker who likes smoking and how it makes them feel and who wouldn’t give up if they felt it would be easy. Giving up smoking with Hypnotherapy is much easier than going it alone. In the stop smoking technique that I use I combine three techniques so it is very effective.

Anxiety

If you suffer from anxiety it can rule your life. Anxiety can vary from being nervous about driving, leaving the house, going to be particular places or being in certain situations. Anxiety can be triggered by not much more than a thought or smell. The most common cause of anxiety is stress. Stress can lead to anxiety symptoms, and anxiety can make stress worse. This can be a bit of a shock to someone who has never suffered from either before and finds themselves suffering from headache, dry mouth, dizziness, and sweating. These symptoms can come on at any time even when most unexpected and even result in panic attacks. People offer suffer in silence but could benefit quickly and easily from the right treatment.

And there are things you want to move towards…..

Do you say or think you want change but not do anything about it? Do you see others around you making changes and feel envious but if you looked at it objectively you could see that they changed because they put the effort, energy and financial investment in to make that change happen? for example if you live in a flat and this makes you unhappy because you would rather have a house are you prepared to get a new job or change your lifestyle to take on the extra responsibility and make that happen?

A better lifestyle

If you really want more money you might need to get a new job or relocate or retrain to find a new job. This means you will need to invest in yourself. Sometimes people are held back by fear and benefit from a confidence boost Hypnotherapy session to help them make changes, take exams or brave an interview.

Dreams

ballroom dancing

Fear and lack of clear direction and goal setting hold a lot of people back from reaching their true potential. What’s amazing about the unconcious mind is that it knows what you really want (even you don’t!). Some of the things that become apparent during Hypnotherapy and coaching can be life changing for people. They realise they are not living the life they really want to or not doing the hobby they would really love. Bring on the ballroom dancing!

Happiness

Happiness is so different for every single person. Some people need to be around people and others needs to be around books! some people will have materialistic aspirations other don’t care about that. Some people will get joy from their dog and others from making up a new recipe. The point is… a lot of people don’t understand themselves well enough to know what makes them intrinsically happy. ‘Work of the self’, that is exploring inner feelings and drivers, knowing your values and identity is the key to the door to your happiness.

 

Make that change now

make that change now

Quite often I will have a free 20 minute consultation with a client and they will go away and think about it. In that time they might try to sort the ‘thing’ out themselves. I hope that for some people this brings a happy ending, I really do. But on many occasions that same person will come back some time later for the thing we spoke about and they will book in. What they always say when we finish working together is that they wish they had come sooner! So if you want change, do it now and reap the benefits ASAP 🙂

 

This blog is one in a series about self-development and ways to help you manage your mental health. I’m providing techniques and advice a  Hypnotherapist and coach working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

Your ‘what I want to change’ list.

For today’s list please make a list of things in your life that you would want to change and pick the most important. Then get in touch for your free 20 minute consultation by calling 07530 890089 or at [email protected]

Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

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Do you crave quiet time?

It’s oh so quiet

Except it isn’t oh so quiet is it! modern life is noisy. Constant sound coming into our ears and our brains. We have to pay attention to sound as one of the reasons we have it is to alert us to danger.

If you really notice noises? Then the likelihood is that you are an auditory person. Can you not help listening to what people are talking about Do you find it easy to listen to what people are saying? Do noises irritate you easily? Then yes, you are an auditory person.

This isn’ good or bad, it just is. Some people are more visual and other kinesthetic but we all have a preference.

How do we hear?

ear

Our hearing is an interesting sense as it is always on. Our ears are like microphones, picking up all sounds all the time. The only way to block them out is with earplugs! We can close our eyes, but we can’t close our ears.

The ear is made up of three different sections: the outer ear, the middle ear, and the inner ear. These parts all work together so you can hear and process sounds. Sound waves enter the outer ear, they travel through the ear canal into the middle ear. The middle ear takes the sound waves and turns them into vibrations that go into the inner ear. This needs the help of the eardrum which vibrates and moves some small bones which help sound move along on its journey into the inner ear so we can hear it.

Sounds can bring us joy

Music is one of life’s pleasures. It is said that music can change your mood in seconds. And who does’t love a power ballard! And there are many other sounds that bring us joy. Maybe….

  • The voice of a loved one
  • The phone ringing
  • The ice cream van
  • The waves of the ocean
  • Birds singing
  • Laughter

 

Do you crave quiet time?

But all this noise can clutter the mind. If you are already feeling under pressure, noise may accentuate that pressure.  You might find yourself craving quiet time.

Quiet time is good for you. But where can you get quiet time?

  • Meditation
  • Floatation tank
  • Remote nature spots
  • Libraries
  • Hypnosis

When you are quiet, you can concentrate. You can be alone with your thoughts. Get in touch with the inner you. Once the mind chatter quietens down your thoughts feel calm and pure. And you can fully relax. Once you have fully relaxed you can feel refreshed, more creative and more in control.

This blog is one in a 30 day series about self-development and practical lists we will be making to enhance our lives. I’m using these blogs to provide coaching and advice in my capacity as a qualified coach and Hypnotherapist working locally in West Sussex and Worldwide on Skype.

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of way you could feel better when you felt down. How many did you come up with?

Your favourite sounds list.

What are your favourite sounds? Spend a day noticing the sounds around you the ones you enjoy and make a note of them. Listen to them often!

 

See you tomorrow.

Honey (Sussex based Hypnotherapist that helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression).

x

 

Who has your six?

Who has your six?

‘In the army they have a phrase ‘who has your six’ which means who has your back. It’s because 12 o’clock is front and 6 o’clock is back. This is important in the army where your job is literally life and death and you need to have complete trust in those around you.

It is so important to seek out people who ‘have your six’ in life. You probably have family that do this automatically, but there are many ways to find and have people that have your back. Some of them may be friends, your partner or your work buddies. People you can trust and turn to when life gets messy or you need a pep talk.

But what humans often forget is that we are all in this together. ‘We’ is far more powerful than ‘I’.  When we combine forces with another person or other people we create a whole new energy, a new force that can achieve more.

Ideas with knobs on

Think about it. You have ideas which when you can  share with trusted people and they add their ideas, you then have ideas with knobs on.

But supporting another person gives you something too. Helping other people is one of the key contributors to making you happy. It give a lasting feeling of contribution and satisfaction. What could be more rewarding than making a positive difference to someone else’s life?

We’ve all heard of:

  • The teacher that spotted the talent in the child
  • The adult that saw that a child was having a tough time and helped them
  • That person who totally changed someone’s life
  • The well connected person that spotted a quiet talent
  • The kind person that saved someone’s life

 

Priceless

I recently saw a facebook post from someone who was having a tough time and put a very raw and personal message out. What happened as a result  was a fundraising campaign to help him to give his kids a good Christmas. He was given thousands of pounds which must have been a great help. But I bet that feeling he had of all the love & support and people that care was PRICELESS.

One excellent way to have someone’s six is mentoring. The Aspire Foundation offers the opportunity to mentor women around the world. I’ve mentored people for about 15 years and love using my coaching skills to help them.

 

Quick review of yesterday’s list:

Yesterday you wrote a list of things of things you felt stressed about so you could understand what the stress was a symptom of.  How did that work out for you? Any surprises? Don’t forget I can help you with both the root causes and symptoms of stress.

 

Your fifth list:

The fifth list you are going to write is your ‘people who have my six’ list. Make a list of all the people through the course of your life that have had your six.  You will be amazed how many people cared about you, inspired you, helped you or supported you. This is a lovely list to make.

If your list is short or you find it difficult to write, don’t worry. Sometimes we haven’t met the right people yet. You can do this differently. You can write a list of the things you would like help or support with. Or the qualities that your ‘sixer’ would have. This will work in a law of attraction style to help shape the things you think you need.

Lastly, if you don’t have a sixer, be a sixer. Support others and feel how good it feels.

 

I got your six

Oh by the way, if you are one of my clients, I have your six. I will support you in making any changes you need to. That’s a promise 🙂

See you tomorrow.

Honey

x

Why would a Worthing based Hypnotherapist that usually helps people with stop smoking, anxiety, weight loss, stress and depression blog about lists?

This is a great question 🙂 I use a blend of therapies to help my clients including Hypnotherapy, NLP, tapping, Reiki and life coaching. I work at a deep level with my specialism of depression. I use different techniques to suit each individual because people are so different.

Words have such power and often come from our subconscious. Writing things down and labelling things with words can really help us shift the past and get excited about the future. This means we are healing, growing and goal setting all at the same time 🙂

The power of words never ceases to amaze me. Kind words can change lives, giving words to our thoughts and feelings can help us understand ourselves, changing the words that we thought were true can create new possibilities. Words can connect us to ourselves and to others.

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