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What’s the best pain management solution?

Looking for the best pain management solution? This post will help you

When it comes to pain, and pain management there are some things you need to know before you can choose the right pain management solution. I realise this isn’t the answer you’re looking for, but unless we know what sort of pain you’re experiencing we don’t know if it can respond to the suggested treatments.

There are two main types of pain

Nociceptive pain
Neuropathic pain

Nociceptive pain is the usually described as “Sharp, aching or throbbing pain”. If you have this type of pain, then nociceptive pain is what it’s known as. Nociceptive pain can be caused by things like

Arthritis
Back Pain
Fatigue Conditions
Surgical pain
Migraines
IBS
Fibromyalgia
Joint Pain

Neuropathic pain is a different sensation. This is often described as a burning, heavy sensation and sometimes numbness is a part of this pain. Neuropathic pain can be caused by

Sciatica
Crohns
Trapped Nerves
Accident damage
Ongoing degenerative disorders
Pains in the back, leg, hip, arm, wrist, hands, ankles, feet, neck shoulders
Old injuries
ME
CFS
Allergies

These two types of pain can be confusing, as they often co-exist and the pain you’re feeling may be both heavy and stabbing. This means your pain management solution might not work because you’re targeting the wrong thing. The other reason your pain may not leave after treatment is that your pain is serving you somehow emotionally.

This is not your fault.

In childhood, we learn many coping mechanisms, and these help us get through life and survive it. However, sometimes we have a habit that we should’ve left in childhood. Unfortunately, adulthood is not like the customs area of an airport. You don’t transition from childhood by unpacking all your luggage in front of a customs officer and they say what you can or can’t bring into adulthood. You bring everything with you. Your brain wants you to be prepared for anything and everything, so it packs everything from childhood and brings it into adulthood, and nothing and no one will stop it – because that’s what it does.

Your old pain is still serving you

Now the thing with old pain, and hanging on to it, is that unpacking all of the old pain is an unpleasant experience. And I totally understand why you may not want to face it. Sometimes you have things buried so deep that you fear that if you confronted it you would unravel. So, pain is not easy to treat and an aspirin isn’t always the answer and saying “let it go” or “get over it” hasn’t worked so far, and it’s unlikely to work in the future. In fact, pain can be a constant and miserable companion that is hard to persuade to leave your side. Especially as you want to keep your old, faithful but hurtful friend.

The Best Pain Management Solution

Hypnotherapy is one of the best pain management solutions available, and this can help you with the pain that helps you cling to things like smoking and overeating. When it comes to a pain management solution for emotional issues, OldPain2Go is one of the best treatments. As an OldPain2Go practitioner, I can tell you that in terms of treatment it’s non-invasive and can significantly reduce your pain. If you are carrying an emotional pain, then this can be completely reduced. This is a natural healing solution, there are no pills or potions to take and you’ll find at the end of a session that you feel stronger and less “heavy” from the pain you’re carrying around with you.

In 100% of my cases so far, this pain management solution has reduced pain significantly. This means that you should book in a call to talk about your pain management issues and see if this is the best pain management solution for you.

All pain is different for the person experiencing it. You’ll like that when you work with me you’re treated as the unique human being that you are. You will find the pain management solution is delivered relatively quickly. The longest session has been 2 hours and the shortest is just 30 minutes. Let’s assume for a moment that you’re average (I know you’re an extraordinary human being but let’s imagine average for the purposes of the post), this means you could transform your life in 60 minutes or less.

You’ve probably spent longer in traffic jams, stuck on the M25 or trying to get through to a person when you’re on the line to a call centre. You will regularly lose 60 mins to things that aren’t very important at all. So you can easily spend 60 minutes with me to help manage your pain, and often lose it entirely.

If this sounds like something you would like to talk about, then book in a discovery call below. We can have a chat, and I’ll promise you that if I can’t help you for whatever reason, I will refer you to someone who may be able to support you.

OldPain2Go is the best of all pain management solutions

OldPain2Go is the best of all pain management solutions and removes ‘old pain’

This treatment really can free you from your prison of pain

The elimination of your pain happens in this talking therapy by turning off old pain that is no longer needed as a warning to the body. If you don’t remove old pain it can mask new pain messages that you need to know about. This therapy is especially beneficial for:

Arthritis
Back Pain
Old injuries
Fatigue Conditions
Surgical pain
Accident damage
Ongoing degenerative disorders
Pains in the back, leg, hip, arm, wrist, hands, ankles, feet, neck shoulders
Migraines
IBS
Crohns
Trapped nerves
Fibromyalgia
Joint Pain
Sciatica
ME
CFS
Allergy
Emotional pain
Any unwanted symptom that has been investigated

You need to have had the pain checked out by the medical profession and ensure:

1. There is nothing more can be done but pain management and pain control
2. A reason for the pain cannot be found despite tests and you are advised to use pain management and pain conrol
3. You have a degenerative condition where it is likely the pain will increase and all that can be done is pain management and pain control

The OldPain2Go pain technique gets rid of old/ chronic pain messages quickly. You can expect a complete removal of pain, or less commonly, a reduction to an acceptable level.

You DON’T need to BELIEVE it will work – You must WANT it to. This is a partnership of mutual intent with me and I only want the best for you. So you may have been looking at pain management solutions for some time so why not try something different?

If you are sick of being in pain, this pain management service is fast becoming the future of pain relief

Pain has a purpose, it alerts us to attend to our body when we are injured or unwell. Usually pain is just a temporary thing. But the initial pain message can get stuck and stay switched on.

OldPain2Go™It is a revolutionary pain management technique. It’s a way of allowing your own healing systems to make better choices for giving you a better quality of life. As a qualified practitioner, I hep you release the unwanted pain messages and move on with your life pain free.

OldPain2Go™ pain management technique has been developed by Steven Blake as a therapist getting exceptional results, typically in one session, on hundreds of people with physical and emotional pain. Analysis of this success led to this methodology which is based on how the brain processes information and runs automated programs.

You will work on your own mind with OldPain2Go™, with my support. You will discover the possible reasons the pain has continued long beyond it being helpful and then will ask your brain to safely eliminate the pain.

To learn more about OldPain2Go from the creator Steven Blake, See FAQ here: OldPain2Go FAQ

Get in touch for your free consultation

I help clients using OldPain2Go in Worthing, Shoreham-By-Sea, Lancing, Brighton and throughout Sussex. I also see a lot of clients on Skype Worldwide.

How to show up as your authentic self in life and business

I can share with you How to show up as your authentic self in life and business because I do it! Sometimes we don’t connect the dots between ourselves and our businesses but I think it’s catching on, because I am seeing a lot of business people talking about mindset.

I’ve been following Judith Morgan’s blog fest with interest because I love reading blogs for starters (nearly as much as I love writing them!) but more than that, I love hearing people’s stories. These blogs are really people’s business stories and It all ties in with her new book called Your Biz Your Way which is about doing YOUR business YOUR way. And you can find Judith’s blog here. Now I’m all about living life your way so this sits well with me!

Treat this like this is your life

Change Your Life Academy

I remember someone saying to me in my Corporate job ‘Treat this like it was your business’. That excited me so much because even in a big corporation there were people that realised if you give people trust and ownership, they will be more inspired and driven. That little comment made a great big difference to my teams’ results. It was me being my authentic self in that role.

I think that ‘Treat this like this is your business’ could translate more broadly into ‘Treat this like this is your life’ and that is something I certainly live by. So many people wait to be ‘done to’ but often you have to make your life happen on purpose. You have more power as your authentic self.

Got no money; make some. Got no friends; Find some. Hate your job? The list goes on. You can change most things in your life. If you want to. Believing this is the first step. The opportunities are abundant in 2018 and we are truly blessed.

This can be a bit of a mindset shift and in my therapy business I help a lot of people with mindset shifts! But get your head in the game and this really is YOUR LIFE and you will feel like you have more options. More power and therefore more happiness.

My life fundamentals

I have some fundamentals that I live my life as my authentic self and things are not much different in my business. Let me share these with you now:

Use energy wisely

I am fully aware of my energy levels. When they are high I harness them and flourish and when they are low, I replenish. I try to never go overdrawn because when I am depleted I cannot give my best self to life, family, friends and clients

I don’t waste my energy on arguments, gossip, comparison or anything that brings negative energy into my ‘field’.

I replenish mostly in nature, walking and being around tress or the sea.

Laugh often

It is said that children laugh around 300 times a day and adults just 17. I look for laughter at every opportunity because it feels good! And bring laughter into my therapy practice because it’s as excellent way to access the unconscious and change how something feels.

Do things that bring you joy

I know myself well. I could write an exact list right now of things that bring me joy. If I ever feel myself creeping away from joy I act quick and get it back. This is a life skill in my view.

Things that bring you joy don’t have to be big or expensive, they just need to bring you joy.

In my therapy business I get joy from working at a deep level with clients. I help them find themselves and find their own joy too.

Explore

When I travel I really go for it. Get involved in the culture, see all there is to see, eat the local food, go where the locals go and find out about their cultures and traditions.

I explore in my business too. Mostly training in new therapies because I seek out the best trainers Worldwide. But in a broader sense trying new things with clients to best help them.

Live truly

I don’t do gimmicks, I don’t endorse people I don’t trust or believe in and I always bring my true self to the table/day/session. These criteria are true to authentic self. I love values because they form our identity and it’s a big piece of the work I do in my signature package (if you are curious about what that is please do ask me). When we align to our true values people get the best of us and it’s funny how the right things come to us.

I see being my authentic self as a hugely important part of being a therapist. My energy will flow in a way that shows people my intentions are to help them the best I can. Trust and rapport are part of a good Hypnosis session.

If I give my true self, it creates an energetic circuit where my client can be open about what they want to change and achieve the best possible results.

Share knowledge

If you are a Facebook friend of mine you will know that I share knowledge freely. I believe if we all share knowledge, the world is a better place because we all know more. It’s also a great chance for discussion.

I share knowledge freely as a therapist. I don’t hold things back for ‘the next session’, if I think it benefits the client, I share it or use it there and then. Best outcomes are my mission!

Focus on your strengths

No one asks Tiger Woods to excel at basketball do they? He is really good at golf so he plays that, wins, feels great, earns good money and thrills his fans. Why on earth would he focus on other sports that he isn’t good at? Unless he wanted to learn new things or he enjoyed doing them of course.

We spend too much time thinking about the things we aren’t good at when I believe we should nurture and grow the things we are good at. I also believe we all have a gift/gifts. You’ve just got to find yours.

Know WHO you are, not WHAT you are

No one is Youer than You

I often ask clients ‘Who are you’? And they answer with things like mum, wife, dad, husband, sister, brother, lawyer, teacher, entrepreneur, fitness addict or whatever. Usually a role, job or hobby.

And then we do what I call ‘work of the self’, where we uncover the parts of them they may have overlooked or forgotten. When we uncover their real ‘who’ it feels exciting. Like a new toy to be played with!

Just so you know, I am an explorer 🙂

Everything flows when you are your authentic self

This was a very easy post to write. It flowed from the heart and isn’t it great how easy things are when we are just our true selves. I believe when we live our truth, we do our best work.

I would love to hear what you think of how finding yourself links to having a better business and if you want to hear more from me, please come and follow me on Facebook and Instagram

Until next time.

Honey

You need to stop doing these 3 things if you want better sleep

_{How good is your sleep recently? There seems to be an epidemic of bad sleep going round! Many of my clients report poor sleep as an issue.}

_{A lack of sleep can affect:}

_{Your memory}
_{Your immune system}
_{Your cardiovascular system}
_{Your chances of getting dementia in later life}
_{Your fertility}

_{If you’re someone who doesn’t find getting to sleep at night easy, you’re not alone – insomnia is one of the UK’s biggest googled health worries.}

_{I believe that sleep is one of the cornerstones of health and wellbeing. Even one or two nights of poor sleep can really make you feel low, agitated and sluggish.}

_{So often people focus on what they should be doing and they aim to do it perfectly This can causes stress in itself. So, for this blog I thought I would reverse it and focus on the three main things that you could not do that would make the biggest difference to your sleep.}

_{The three things are simply:}

_{Stop shallow breathing. Try some}_{diaphragmatic breathing}_{which is amazing for deeply relaxing}
_{Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed as it stimulates your brain}
_{Don’t go to bed at random times. Stick to a sleep schedule. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day when possible}

_{Let’s look at them one by one.}

_{1 – Stop shallow breathing}

woman deep breathing

_{Just take a moment now and notice how you are breathing. Is your breath high in your chest or from low? Are your breathes shallow or deep? Fast or slow? Are you breathing through your nose or your mouth? We mostly take the breath for granted. It is taken care of by our unconscious mind which operates our breathing and all the systems and organs in the body to keep us alive. But you can really relax by breathing in a different way and although there are many techniques and even classes for breathing, diaphragmatic breathing is a good one to master because it really relaxes your and puts you in control. Many of my clients I help with anxiety and stress find it very beneficial and it’s a great one to do in bed to prepare for sleep.}

_{2 – Try not to use anything digital in the hour before bed}

_{Now without getting all scientific here about the reward receptors in your brain and how they love a bit of Facebook and Instagram, think about this for a moment. You are looking at a bright screen, your eyes are focused on small items and words and you might be toggling between apps, internet, text and calls. Does that sound like a peaceful bedtime wind down time?! I think not. I actually read yesterday that our brains don’t know the difference between work emails and personal emails, Your brain jumps into ‘work’ mode whenever it sees an email and this creates cortisol (a stress hormone) in your body. Not what you want at bedtime. So stay away from the Digital gadgets at bedtime and choose a more soothing and relaxing wind down activity. You will absolutely notice a difference.}

_{3 – Don’t go to bed at random times}

_{We are creatures of habit really. We do well with routines and we have to sleep every night so might as well try and make it a routine that your body will like. We put children to bed at the same time each night mostly but not ourselves? Your body will love a routine for sleep, just as it loves regular mealtimes. It knows what to expect and can manage its energy accordingly.}

_{Because sleep is so important to your health and maybe an issue for you, you might like to try the things on this list and let me know which is your favourite. Or maybe you have a ‘stop doing’ tip of your own that you can share in the comments of this blog? We would love to hear it, you might help someone sleep better tonight.}

Sign up for my free Wellbeing Challenge to have better sleep, more energy and feel more relaxed

_{If you want more sleep advice, sign up for my free 21 Day Wellbeing Challenge which focuses on helping you feel great by looking at your 5 ‘pillars’ of Wellness:

•Sleep

•Hydration

•Nutrition

•Exercise

•Relaxation}

How you can crush your sugar cravings for better health

So how you can crush your sugar cravings for better health? For a few years now one of my most popular services has been helping people go sugar free or reduce their sugar intake.

Going sugar free is like giving up smoking

Sugar is an addictive substance. But I see it a lot like giving up smoking with two elements. There is the physical addiction and then the habit. Removing the sugar from the body can be done quite easily by just not having it for a few days. The habit needs to be addressed by changing your mindset.

This is where my skills as an advanced Hypnotherapist make the difference. I help you use the power of your mind to move towards a life that doesn’t depends on sugar for energy, happiness or satisfaction. You see, that’s just a belief that you have. This is the same process I use to help people stop smoking. Just like smoking, people carry on abusing their body for years because they are trapped. You can be sugar free (quite easily).

The sugar free authors

There are lots of books about going sugar free available, with some very yummy recipes! Here are a few of my favourites:

Whilst I love their books and recipes, what these books are not able to address is the mental and emotional need and desire for sugar. For many people, this is stronger than the physical need. Which is why my sugar free programme is different. It has the Hypnotic recording that you can listen to as often as you want or need to.

What’s the problem with eating sugar anyway?

For the occasional and moderate sugar eater, there might not be a problem. But if you someone that uses it as an emotional crutch or find yourself addicted, it can make you feel bad about yourself, not to mention the damage it does to your body (which I will cover in future blog posts).

I have ridden the sugar roller coaster myself and know I don’t like how it feels when I am eating lots of sugar. I know what my own symptoms of sugar eating are. You might recognise some of these as yours:

Energy dips. So tired at times in the day you feel like you need to have a sleep because you just can’t function
Out of control. An insatiable desire for sugary foods. Looking for the next ‘fix’
Worrying how you will function without it
Using it as a source of pleasure
Spending lots of money on sugary foods.
Falling into a ‘savoury’ then ‘sweet’ trap. This one reminds me of Christmas binging but the problem is it is happening every day
Weight gain
Lack of glow
Small pimples on skin
Disrupted sleep
Mood swings
Worry about eating too much sugar and its effects on your body
Feeling addicted.
Guilt about setting a bad example to your children

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Sugar is addictive and easy to get your hands on. Unfortunately it is also hidden in a lot of the food and drink you consume and you might not even realise it. But it is not good for you. Your body is not designed to cope with large amounts of sugar and whilst most things, sugar is ok in moderation, but maybe sugar is a problem they you would rather be without.

What is the process for Crushing Your Sugar Cravings?

Picture of cupcakes

I have been helping crush their sugar cravings face to face and on Skype for years . I have now devised an effective online programme for you to use in your own home. I have my Hypnosis skills and nutritional experience to devise a programme that lets you cleanse your body of sugar naturally and change your mindset towards eating sugar. You can buy the online programme here for £19.99.

You will need a blender to make the recipes, because for 3 days you will be having home made health drinks to cleanse your body of sugar and remove those sugar cravings. You listen to the Hypnotic recording as often as you want to and notice your thoughts and feelings towards sugar and the way you nourish yourself changing. For good!

How will you feel when you Crush Your Sugar Cravings?

The first thing is a sense of freedom! When you are addicted to sugar, it can feel like it is controlling you. Removing those craving and the feeling that you ‘need sugar’ sets you free.

The Crush Your Sugar Cravings programme I have carefully designed have designed will make overcoming your sugar addiction easy. At the same time it will fill your body with nutrients and made you feel amazing. Some of the benefits you can expect by completing these programme are:

It will stop the misery of sugar filled days and guilt around eating too much sugar
It will put you in control of your nutrition
You will feel amazing and find your glow
You will have the satisfaction of overcoming your addiction
You complete the course at a time that suits you and the course is yours to keep
You get access to a likeminded community for unlimited support
You may lose weight
You will be taking steps to improve your health

This is your way to break your sugar addiction and feel fantastic in just 3 days.

The way this programme works is you drink the specially devised ‘health drinks’ for 3 days. That’s right, no solid food, just the drinks. The reason for this is by not having to fully digest food, your body can focus on extracting the nutrients from the ‘health drinks’ you will be having. With these nutrients filling your body you will feel amazing. And when you feel that amazing, believe me, you won’t want to spoil it with sugar.

The body also uses a huge amount of energy digesting food. So by drinking easy to digest drinks for 3 days, you will have increased energy levels which make you feel even more amazing. Maybe you haven’t had good energy for a while and you will absolutely love having some now by following this programme.

If you think that sounds difficult, it won’t be. You have a Hypnotic recording to support you and harness the power of your mind to achieve this and start your new life of energy without addiction.

Don’t delay, start your journey to freedom from sugar today

You can buy the online course right now. Please pass the details on to your friends who have been talking about going sugar free too.

30 days to a happier you – Day 10 – things to do for free

Sweet and sour

The other day I heard some children talking about peoples’ reactions when they played their game of sweet and sour.

Apparently sweet and sour game is where you sit in the back of a Volvo and wave at strangers in others cars. If they wave back they are sweet and if they don’t they are sour! I heard about how one man had showed them a doughnut and another man did a salute. They thought this was great. Children find lots of ways to have fun for free.

Adults can have fun for free too. You might get some funny looks if you play sweet and sour but here are some ideas of things you can do for free.

Go to the sea
Take a course, there are free courses available at future learn
Cook something or invent a new dish
Cloud watch…….. Oh sorry I’m back. I just got distracted by some clouds!
Put some of your favourite photos in a collage
Read. Even if you hate reading there must be a book that you would enjoy. There are sites that find books you might like. Try whatshouldireadnext
Music changes your mood in 3 seconds. Choose a belter and sing your heart out. These girls are funny!
Be a tourist in your own city. I did this recently in Brighton and had a lot of fun
Make your Family tree. Free at most libraries
Walk in nature

nature

Go window shopping to see what you don’t need to buy!
Create something. A scarf, pen pot, book, shed
Find a group near you on Meet Up. If you can think of it, there’s a group for it!
Watch inspiring Ted talks
Look at some art to inspire you or make you wonder what it is!

weird art

Explore. On foot. On a bike. In the car
Exercise
Try creative writing or even a blog
Create a new outfit out of your existing clothes
Watch animals
Learn a new skill
Try some adult colouring
Create a mission for yourself – maybe see all the Royal Parks or local parks in your area? Visit all the libraries? Find the local markets?
Help someone else – Radio 1 have a great thing at the moment where you can give an hour to help others
Grow something

Peter Glazebrook from Newark kisses his world record breaking onion that weighed in at 18lbs 1oz, beating his previous world record by almost 2ozs, at the Harrogate Autumn Flower Show. PRESS ASSOCIATION Photo. Picture date: Friday September 14, 2012. Glazebrook took six first prize awards in the Giant Vegetable classes at the show. Photo credit should read: John Giles/PA Wire

You will notice that most of these you can do alone. This is because if you make your own fun and happiness first, you become self-sufficient in your happiness and rarely bored and lonely.

I would love to hear your ideas of free things to do. Please add them to the comments and share them!

Here’s the plan:

Read your gratitude list often
Make sure Mind COP is on patrol
Pick one list from the list, do it and see how you feel
Feel free to share this post on facebook or twitter!
Like me on facebook

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

30 days to a happier you – Day 9 – you tell fibs

Is this your Mind COP?

Yesterday you met your own mind COP by imagining what you mind COP looked like, sounds like, wears…

Maybe one of these?

cop robocop1 dogcop

Today we are going to look at how your mind COP will catch those criminal negative thoughts and keep your mind safe. For the past week you have been keeping a note of your negative mind chatter in your notebook. Now is the time to have a good look at what you have written and start working on making some changes to how that chatter might make you feel bad.

Let’s see mind COP in action.

Catch them: You’ve been catching mind chatter for nearly a week. You should have a pretty good idea of what yours is saying to you and who your criminals are.

Own them: These are your thoughts. You created them. You can acknowledge them. Consider them and choose whether to discard them or whether to arrest them.

Protect yourself: You protect yourself by arresting the negative thoughts, examining the evidence and deciding whether to charge them or give them a warning.

Here’s an example based on the losing your job example negative thoughts we looked at yesterday. Read each thought from left to right to see how Mind COP works.

Catch them	Own them	Protect yourself
‘I should have worked harder’	I did work hard though	Maybe they didn’t really appreciate me?
‘Why didn’t I take that course to learn more’	I did a lot of development in that role	This is a chance to learn something new
‘I’m no good’	Is everything I’ve ever done no good?	I’ve achieved a lot
‘I’m unpopular’	With those that love me?	I matter to the people that matter to me
‘Why me’	I was one of 10	I will find a better fit
‘I’m not clever’	I was the problem solver	I need a new challenge
‘I’ll never get another job’	Have you tried?	I wonder what job I will love?

You can see how Mind COP is examining each thought and looking at it in a different way. One thought does not make a truth. One thought may seek evidence from the subconscious to support it, but Mind COP doesn’t fall for this.

Mind COP is objective and realizes that thoughts tell stories but their alibi is weak when questioned. Mind COP wants to hear from the witnesses and sort out those criminal negative thoughts.

You tell fibs

You see when you tell think a negative thought it’s probably not true and your Mind Cop might make this face!

youthinkwhat

So the next time those pesky criminal negative thoughts are doing a ‘wrong un’ in your mind, just see them scarper when Mind COP comes along and bangs them to rights.

Your time is precious, don’t waste it

How much of your precious life are you going to spend thinking negatively?

Think about it, how much time are you going to think about negative situations, obsess about the things that went wrong it your life, worry about things that happen or might never happen? Two hours a day? Which is 14 hours a week. Which is 60 hours a month. Which is 730 hours a year. Which is 30 DAYS A YEAR of feeling bad. What could you do in 30 days? A lot! In our example of losing the job, that is 30 days of enjoying the freedom of not working and exploring options for a new career whilst feeling happier.

Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs and change. By learning to manage your thoughts you will be more resilient in the tough times and happier on the whole. You are not your past, your current situation or what people say about you. You are so much more than that and you can shine.

Write your own table of negative mind chatter in the same format as above and set your mind COP to work
Read your gratitude list often
See you tomorrow

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

30 days to a happier you – Day 8 – You have the power of arrest

Your mind power is the most powerful thing you own.

In fact so powerful, you even have two! The conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind helps you operate in the ‘now’ and makes rationale decisions. The subconscious operates at a deeper level and looks to protect us in all we do. You can read more about your two minds here

You’ve got more rabbit than Sainsburys!

On Day 2 we started to look at mind chatter. Many of my clients spend more than 50% of their day thinking negatively or hearing negative mind chatter. If you watched sad films for that amount of time, they would probably lower your mood. But the good news is, if you spent the same amount of time watching positive films this would no doubt lift your mood.

Now this isn’t saying you shouldn’t watch sad films or feel negative emotions because we are human beings. We need to feel the whole range of emotions to have a complete human experience. This is about being aware that when a negative thought comes into our mind, it may not be the truth and maybe we shouldn’t spend time dwelling on it or believing it if it makes us feel bad.

Negative thoughts are like criminals in your mind

Say you lost your job. This is a serious life affecting event and can have a huge effect on people. Now say you spent much of your time thinking about:

‘I should have worked harder’
‘Why didn’t I take that course so I would be better’
‘I’m no good’
‘I’m unpopular’
‘Why me’
‘I’m not clever’
‘I’ll never get another job’

These thoughts are like criminals in your mind.

You might spend a few hours a day thinking about these things. These thoughts may run concurrently in your mind and feel like a cloud around your head, stifling you. When your friends and family are talking to you, you might not be listening to what they are saying because you are so wrapped up in what you are thinking. You can’t really read or watch TV properly because you are thinking about the ‘bad stuff’. It starts affecting your sleep. You lose enthusiasm for things you used to enjoy. All because of these thoughts. These thoughts are affecting your enjoyment of life, your relationships and opportunities. You might find it harder to get another job because your self-esteem is low and everything becomes much more difficult.

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Mind COP is a good COP. He (or she!) is there, patrolling in your head, looking out for negative thoughts and helping you to; Catch them. Own them. Protect yourself.

Tomorrow I will be showing you mind how COP will protect you against those criminal negative thoughts in your mind. And yes, you really do have the power of arrest (in real life, it’s a citizens arrest ). We will look at how mind COP will help you make arrests and bang the baddies to rights.

Now all this talk about mind COP and criminal negative thoughts is using our imagination. This is the beauty of the mind. It’s imaginative (which is a problem when it creates negative thoughts, phobias and anxiety) but wonderful when it creates excitement, possibility and power.

So let’s imagine mind COP now…. close your eyes (but read this first!). Can you see mind COP? What can you see? Does mind COP have a voice? A uniform? A face? How big is mind COP? How will mind COP help you?

You create your own thoughts you see. With your amazing, powerful, imaginative mind.

Here’s the plan:

Keep noting your mind chatter in your notebook
Read your gratitude list often
Come back tomorrow and I will show you Mind COP in action catching those criminals and keeping your mind safe

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

30 days to a happier you – Day 7 – 1 week complete

Congratulations

You’ve completed your first week of 30 days to a happier you. I wonder what you’ve noticed about your thoughts and the feelings they generate? And maybe you feel that you have a lot more control over your happiness than you think…..

You are the owner of your happiness

Here’s a reminder of what you’ve been up to over the past week in your mission to be a happier you.

Day 1 – you gave yourself a current happiness score out of 10 to see how happy you currently are.

Day 2 – you started to catch negative mind chatter going on in your head and made a note of it in your notebook.

Day 3 – you tried to make friends with your mind.

Day 4 – you became a mind COP by realising how much time you spend thinking negatively. You are now focused on catching those negative thoughts as they come in, owning the thought and protect yourself by realising it might not be true.

Day 5 – you did the shake N vac and started to freshen your mind with gratitude.

Day 6 – you wrote a really good gratitude list that means something to you.

Wow, what a great start! Well done you 🙂

Why wait any longer to be a happier you?

don;t postpone happiness

If you haven’t done all the exercises, or you have just found this blog series, no problem! It is never too late to start.

Just go back on the blogs and pick up from there. You just need a notebook and pen, to read my blogs each day and dedicate a small amount of time each day to do the exercises. This is not meant to be another thing on your ‘to do list’. It is raising your awareness to things that affect your happiness and helping you train your brain to be happier.

You are not alone

If you are finding this difficult to do on your own, no problem, because I can help you. I offer 4 session packages in person in West Sussex or on Skype round the world! In 4 sessions people have significiant insights and shifts. If you have an electrical problem, you call an electrician. You probably don’t service your own car. And I doubt you do your own dental check up or eye test!

So if you need help with your mind or issues that you can’t solve alone, seek the help of a professional. Your mental health is a critical part of your wellbeing. 1 in 3 adults will have a mental health issue at some point in their lives and there is lots of help available.

Here’s the plan:

Refresh yourself on anything you’ve missed
Come back tomorrow

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

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30 days to a happier you – Day 6 – A good gratitude list

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Gratitude lists are talked about a lot now. But rarely are we shown how to write a meaningful one that works.

A gratitude list is a powerful thing. If you capture the things that you are grateful for and they have real meaning to you, it can help you build happiness and can be a source of comfort in difficult times.

Have a go right now!

It helps if your list has a good variety of things and you understand why you are grateful for what you have written. A bit like ‘I’m grateful for x because it means ‘y’. You might need a few goes before you get the finished article, but along the way you are thinking in a grateful way and a positive way. This is great because you are looking on the world as a good place. And the even better news is when you look for the good, it lifts you and then you see and feel better. When you have a gratitude list you are happy with, don’t stick it in a cupboard. It’s a living document with a purpose. Stick in somewhere you can see it. Carry a pretty copy on you or in the car. Have it on your phone/computer/hairdryer/xbox.

So what makes a good gratitude list?

gratitude list

Many people find it hard to write a gratitude list. Here are some examples to help you on your way:

Clean water available everywhere I go. Water is the most beneficial drink for my mind and body and quenches my thirst.
For being able to read so I can enjoy stories and information abundantly
For the sun shining on my face and making me feel good
For the rain that cleanses the earth and nourishes the plants and crops
The kindness of people and the kindness they show me
Trees for giving us oxygen
Wind for flying kites and wind farms
My sense of humour for seeing the funny side in most things
My honesty which makes me a trusted person
My baking skills which helps me make lovely things for people
Air for every wonderful breath
Sleep for renewing my body and making me feel rested and ready for the day
Chickens for laying eggs which make many nutritious meals
Colours which light up my life and give me pleasure
Light for bringing different dimensions to all I see
The sea where I can swim, play and fish
Animals for their cuteness, their comedy and their companionship
My wobbly tummy for giving me babies
Teachers of all sorts of lessons which have helped me grow, think differently and exercise in different ways
Music for giving my ears pleasure and firing my emotions
Food for the pleasure it gives and the nourishment it provides
Campfires for their feeling of freedom and wilderness and not forgetting smores
Touch so I feel my loved ones skin and stroke their hair
Freezer for making ice cubes and my kettle for making cups of tea
Yeast for making dough rise for bread
My voice so I can read stories to my children and make people laugh
My ears which let me hear the tone in someone’s voice which tells me how they feel and the waves crashing on the beach
My nose to smell flowers and perfume and also smells to avoid
My courage that gets me through difficult times

If you are stuck at what to put on your gratitude list consider nature, animals, the human body or people.

The highest level of gratitude is the gratitude for existence itself.

A negative can make a positive

ebay_logo You can get things for your gratitude list from negative situations. This is called ‘reframing’. Basically finding the positive in a negative situation. Ebay do it beautifully when they say ‘you’ve won’ the item when you’ve bought it! But ‘winning’ is a feel good word.

You can find gratitude in most ‘life lessons’ for example if you don’t like someone’s behaviour, you can be grateful that you know how to behave better or that you have the freedom to not be around them.

What’s interesting about gratitude is that it is not about comparing yourself to those less fortunate. People often fall into this trap. We will come to comparing to others in a later blog. It won’t make you feel better to have something that someone else doesn’t have. Gratitude is about noticing and being grateful for things yourself.

Here’s the plan

Continue to catch your negative mind chatter – are you noticing a key theme or time it occurs yet?
Continue to acknowledge that when a thought comes in, it may not be true 🙂
Become a mind COP. Catch it, own it, protect yourself.
Do the shake and vac and put the freshness back by making an awesome gratitude list

Work with me

I’m a Hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner that specializes in helping people ‘reset’ in difficult times. We will work through confusion and find confidence and joy in your life. You can email me with any questions or for a free 20 minute consultation. I am on Facebook which I’m very grateful for obvs!

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

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