30 days to a happier you – Day 29 – Do you want to know my secret?

Do you want to know my secret?

My secret is that I am not a naturally happy person,  I have had to work at being happy.

I get it and I can help you fix it

I feel like I could write for a year about how to be happier. The reason for this is that it comes from my heart. And I don’t just make most of this up!

Over the past ten years I have been on the most enormous self-development journey and more courses that I can list. Read hundreds of books, attended loads of webinars, seminars and online courses. I won’t tell you what my Hypnotherapy and NLP training have cost!

But most importantly, I have talked to, listened to, laughed with and cried with people. Real people. With real feelings and life stories. These people; friends, colleagues, strangers (yes it’s amazing how when you open these channels people are drawn to you) and clients have all allowed me into their worlds. Their space – where change can take place.

I totally get it. I get your pain. I get your worry. I get your confusion. I get your feeling lost. I get your depression. And I know how to help you fix it.

You will feel different

I read recently that Mary Kondo (tidying up expert) recommends getting rid of any material from courses you go on. And going to the course with that intention. I found that really interesting for a number of reasons.

1 –  It makes you really focus on absorbing the learning while you are on the course

2 – It puts responsibility on you to own the learning

3 –  By being more absorbed in the moment, you feel it more

So when you work with me, you will be absorbed you in the experience and you will feel very different.

Do you have a ‘thing’?


For those that don’t know, this is a picture about the ‘thing’ from The Adams Family. I always loved that film as they are such a varied bunch!

Being happy for some people needs work. But maybe you have a ‘thing’ to sort out. Something that holds you back or affects your life.  Maybe the ‘thing’ is:

  • Depression
  • Lack of confidence
  • Anxiety
  • Stress
  • Sleep
  • Trauma
  • Smoking
  • Weight
  • Something from the past

My philosophy

happiness inside

I really believe that happiness needs to come from within you. Other things can enhance your happiness, yes. But when your happiness comes from within you, you are enriched, stable, strong, more resilient. More compassionate towards self and others. More generous and kind. More relaxed. I operate a ‘no judgement’ policy. You need to feel safe to get everything sorted out.

Here’s the plan:

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Happy hug 🙂



Honey Lansdowne is a successful Hypnotherapist in Worthing. She uses Hypnosis, NLP and 20 years coaching experience to help people overcome anxiety and depression in person and online.

  • elaine says:

    Wholeheartedly agree Happiness has to come from within then it is authentic and although it may get shaken and stirred occasionally it is always there within our reach. If it is outside in happiness there is no foundation there are no roots it is all superficial and short lived.

  • Oh, I love this I had the book Marie Kondo wrote last year and her tips are great….that were my motivation came to de-junk…smashing blog, great points Dx

  • I’m a naturally happy person and it winds loads of people up 😉 My mantra is if that’s the worst thing that happens today, it’ll be a good day and it usually is

  • This is such a lovely post☺ Yes, there are many “things”, but I try to do as many happy things as possible each day. That usually keeps me happy☺

  • Definitely agree with mixing with real people. Helps my levels of happiness no end!

  • Oh, yes, completely agree – happiness is found from within. People, things or experiences can help to make you feel happier for a bit, but you need to know how to be happy first. I’m naturally happy and content person (of course with a touch of low moods and worrying like anyone else!), but the other day I really felt unhappy and grumpy until towards the afternoon my other half noted: ‘You should eat something!’ And you know what, it worked! Possibly not a good example, but we had a good laugh about ‘sometimes you just need to eat something to feel happy…’

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