30 days to a happier you – Day 27 – Guest blogger Dawn Breslin


Chaos is erupting all over the planet and human beings caught in the cross fire are suffering on a grand scale.

Whether it’s global disharmony or the disharmony in our own personal or business lives, the current climate of instability is impacting everyone. Daily waves of shock and terror rock the foundations of our security, shake our confidence and leave many of us feeling out of control.

Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Human beings love certainty. We crave predictability.

So, what happens if the political leader you despise gets in, the life you secretly crave never transpires, your relationship doesn’t look like it’s going to make it, the business runs out of money or indeed you run out of patience or energy? What if you were to lose your job, lose your pension or, dare I say it, face an incurable illness? How do you feel when you are confronted with the unknown?

Each of us deals with fear and uncertainty in our own unique way 

Some of us appear to manage the blows of bad news, whilst others attempt to ignore their deepest fears, numbing their true feelings and burying their heads in the sand. They cling on for dear life, mentally trying to hold back the unfolding tide of reality. Human beings like to know what’s happening and when we can expect an outcome – our careers, our businesses our relationships and our financial security, all appear to depend on certainty – but do they really?

Living a full life means living with uncertainty

Being human and participating in a full life is risky business. We are actually living in a constant state of ever evolving flux and change. Whether we acknowledge it or not, our lives are messy and unpredictable. Driving a car, being in a job or a relationship, being a parent, buying into a pension scheme, going on a date or getting pregnant, even being born; all involve risk. Things don’t always turn out as we plan, fortunately most of us survive it.

The tightness with which we hold on to our fixed ideas of how we would like life to be, determines how easily we transition through change.

Human beings are incredibly resilient. You are actually much more resilient and adaptable than you could ever imagine.

When we begin to let go of the ideas of how we think our life or world should be and we begin to accept the reality of how things really are, our suffering will begin to lessen. Acceptance of change will set us free as we step back into the flow of our evolving future.

There are huge upsides to instability and change.

Change can potentially grow us; it evolves our perspective. It has a lasting emotional, physical and spiritual impact on us, both as individuals and as the human collective. In my experience, the people who have undergone loss, pain and tragedy in their lives have gained vast amounts of empathy and wisdom. Change is a birthplace of creativity and new beginnings. It can offer us freedom from the chains of stagnation, pain and powerlessness. Change can be our friend.

Mother Nature can help us to adapt more easily to change.

Mother Nature is a master at adapting to chaos and change. Plants have survived through ever changing weather patterns. Droughts, storms, floods, frost and snow happen yet life goes on. Nature is in a constant state of flux, yet she always remains present and receptive, ready for her next stage of growth. Unlike humans, who question their capacity to adapt or survive in adverse situations, Nature trusts and adapts to her circumstances with essential ease. This is grace.

How does Nature flow with uncertainty and change? 

She does not resist or fight the storms; she stays soft and allows them to pass through

She does not fear what’s coming next; she stays rooted in herself, trusting in grace.

She does not attach to an outcome; she remains prepared to let go, in order to grow.

She does not control her unfolding; she trusts in the guidance of the life forces and her ability to adapt.


Being a human means you are constantly growing. Growth means change. In your own life so far you have experienced many changes already, some which were easy and some which were difficult. One thing is for sure, when you are open to change you have the power to guide the evolving direction of your life. If you are closed, you will stagnate.

The next time you feel fearful about a change remind yourself…

I CAN adapt. I am much more resilient than I believe.

I CAN re-form my life and create a new vision at any time.

I CAN let go my damaging attachments to people, experiences or stuff. This alleviates my suffering.

I CAN let go with ease and allow my life open up to a new chapter.

I CAN let go resistance to my truth. I can face change and new beginnings.

I CAN let go stagnation as I courageously embrace this ending.

I CAN let go into a resting and re-forming period of my life.

I CAN trust I know what I need to keep and what I need to let go.


You can also watch Dawn Breslin’s story of growth through burn out and recovery here.

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Honey Lansdowne is a successful Hypnotherapist in Worthing. She uses Hypnosis, NLP and 20 years coaching experience to help people overcome anxiety and depression in person and online.

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