30 days to a happier you – Oprah is right….

Oprah Winfrey

 

Oprah Winfrey knows what she is talking about here because we really do ‘own’ our thoughts and attitude.

 

 

 

Our thoughts control our feelings

Let’s explore what Oprah means more…..Our thoughts make us feel good or bad. We control our thoughts. This isn’t about suppressing emotions, it’s about realising that you can invest in negative thinking and feel less happy or invest in positive thinking and feel better. This is why they say that ‘happiness is an inside job’. We will cover this in much more depth as we go through the next 30 days together.

That voice inside your head

Our minds are constantly thinking. Like a running commentary in our head. It reminds me of that film ‘what women want’ with Mel Gibson when he can hear the women’s voices talking as they think (I think there are other films like this too, let me know!). We have this ‘mind chatter’ going on which is not only thinking of the practical things we need to be thinking about, but also talking to us in a negative or positive way.

What is the voice inside your head saying?

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Imagine it now, this voice as you go about your day. You get to work, school, shops, whatever and see a friend, you chat and they say, ‘you’re so funny’ and that voice in your head says ‘you’re fun, ha ha, you make people laugh, great’. This creates good feelings for you and makes you feel good about yourself. You call a company about a problem on a bill and it doesn’t go well and the voice says ‘why don’t things go right for me, my life is full of problems’. This creates bad feelings for you and makes you feel worried, stressed and not so good about yourself.

You own your thoughts

When you become more aware of  your own ‘mind chatter’, this is the first step to owning your thoughts. Imagine talking to a child or someone you care about in a negative way. Firstly it doesn’t feel nice to do that and secondly it would be horrible for the recipient. This is what you are doing to yourself if you speak to yourself in a negative way. We will work on this.

Here’s the plan

Get your notebook and pen and catch the negative mind chatter going on in your head, make a note of what it is saying. Just a couple of lines a day. Don’t dwell on it, just catch it. After all, it’s probably not true anyway 🙂

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Before you start thinking ‘oh no, she’s one of those that tells me to think positive and doesn’t understand what I’ve been through/what I’m up against’. This is so not the case. I help people ease their pain and smooth their thoughts on a regular basis. The work we do over the next 29 days WILL make a difference.

Happy hug 🙂

Honey

Honey

Honey Lansdowne is a successful Hypnotherapist in Worthing. She uses Hypnosis, NLP and 20 years coaching experience to help people overcome anxiety and depression in person and online.

  • Fab article, Honey! It’s so true that we can control our thoughts and that they influence our moods. Catching those thoughts as we have them is a huge step in defeating them!

    • honey says:

      Hi Susan. Absolutely! We do seem to forget that we have control and many people don’t realise that they do 🙂

  • Tamara W says:

    I have a journal, I told my husband it is my ‘vent journal’ so anything I write it is it simply what I an thinking about at the time. I found getting it out helps me not think about it as much. Plus helps deal with it faster then just in my head.

    • honey says:

      Hi Tamara. A ‘vent’ journal, fantastic. There are so many strategies about writing things down. Let’s explore this more! x

  • Barb says:

    This is an interesting read and I love the “What Women Want” reference. Those stats are very interesting, where do they come from?

    • honey says:

      Thanks Barb. I made those stats up as an example of how people in a negative mind set might think. Some people spend A LOT of time in the negative thinking space when they could actually switch this round to positive thinking 🙂

  • Eli says:

    Looking forward to this series! I am definitely guilty of listening to that voice too much.

  • You are so right! We always have two choices in the morning – either to decide to be happy or to be sad (unhappy) – it takes the same effort, but somehow human brains are wired up to naturally lean toward being unhappy. I shall enjoy reading the next blog too!

    • honey says:

      Thanks Magdalena. When I read your comment it made me think of having 2 outfits to choose from in the morning and choosing the shabby one! Let’s wear the good one 🙂

  • Susan says:

    Looking forward to the next 29 days. Never thought of capturing the negative thoughts before. Thanks Honey

    • honey says:

      Thank you Susan. It’s strange because they are there doing damage but we become oblivious! Like living near a busy road and not hearing the traffic I guess. x

  • Sherry Bevan says:

    I worked with my business coach on Wednesday and we discussed the strategy to promote my intensive Powerfulness Leadership Woman group programme. It requires some stepping up. I could ‘hear’ my negative thoughts and was able to notice and capture them as they flitted through my head which allowed me to say them out loud and deal with it there and then.

  • My Attitude impacts my behaviour, which impacts your attitude which impacts your behaviour towards me, which usually reinforces my attitud. Changing your attitude, changes your behaviour and the outcomes you get

  • Michele says:

    No negative chatter for me today, but love the post!

  • Lottie Moore says:

    Catching yourself when the negative words slip into your head is a great way of starting to address your own self doubt

  • Love the post, thoughts do become reality so you need to be mindful of them. Dx

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